The Heart of the Matter

Feb 26 2017

Purveyors of various personal products encourage us to assign enormous value to our personal appearance. While it would be unrealistic to think that looks don’t matter, worrying, fretting and feeling bad over something so insignificant as our outer layer is tragic. Looking good may open a few doors and garner some attention but, ironically, the more authentic we become, the less we care about superficialities and the more others truly appreciate us. The way to get more out of life, than we ever could from impressing others with our personal appearance, is to…

Love and accept ourselves.

Jarl and Steve 

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We’re Making It Up

Feb 25 2017

We all interpret the world with incomplete and biased information. We forget that our opinions aren’t facts, but rather just a single, narrow perspective viewed through the squinty filter of our own particular history. This is fine as long as we’re not making ourselves or others wrong. But, criticizing and condemning because someone doesn’t behave according to our expectations is a destructive activity. That’s when it’s important to consider that, from our limited perspective, it’s very difficult to know the true meaning and eventual consequences of anything. This simple humility breeds tolerance and…

Promotes harmony.

Jarl and Steve.

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It’s the How that Matters Most

Feb 24 2017

What we do matters, but how we do it may matter more. While we can’t always know the best course of action, being conscious about our intention makes a huge difference in creating the kind of positive outcome we seek. Focusing on the highest purpose for all involved helps us tap into our inner wisdom and take right action. When our actions are informed by a positive and generous intention, the results…

Reflect it.

Jarl and Steve

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Be The Change

Feb 23 2017

Arguing with reality is a waste of time and energy. The countless causes that coalesced to create this moment just as it is, have already cooked the recipe. We’re free to create something different, but that effort is better served without adding the lingering flavor of dissatisfaction to the mix. Expending our energy bemoaning, complaining and assigning blame about what’s already come to pass just stirs the pot of discontent. The best thing we can do to quicken a positive transformation is to be an example and model…

The change we want to see.

Jarl and Steve

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Owning Bad Behavior

Feb 22 2017

When we’ve said or done something we regret, owning it and apologizing to those concerned is the self-loving thing to do. Whether they forgive us or not is beyond our control, but taking responsibility for our part and making amends helps us forgive ourselves. On the other hand, if we blame them instead of owning our role, we poison our relationships and lessen the likelihood of resolution. Admitting mistakes and apologizing demonstrates that we can love and accept ourselves for being human and imperfect. When we love and accept ourselves…

Others will too.  

Jarl and Steve 

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Golden Rule of Thumb

Feb 21 2017

It’s not unusual to think and talk about people one way when they’re around and another way when they’re not. But what if the words you utter and the thoughts you ponder about others are, in fact, transmitted to them, even if they aren’t consciously aware of it? What if your idle negativity impacts them, you and the relationship? A great way to find out is to stop thinking negative thoughts about someone you regularly harbor ill will toward and see what happens. Try it! You’ve nothing to lose and may very well gain…

A happier you.

Jarl and Steve

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Requirements for Happiness

Feb 20 2017

After our basic needs are met, it’s our conditioning that drives our desires. This programming often obscures the truth that we actually require very little to be happy. Great satisfaction can arise out of the act of appreciating something ordinary. Fulfillment comes from connection and expressing love. Joy prevails when we drop resistance to what is, release anger and opt out of drama. Happiness may come from achieving dreams, but it’s a much more constant state when we understand it isn’t just a goal, but rather…

A way of life.

Jarl and Steve

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Personal Realities Vary

Feb 19 2017

We all live in our own personal reality, perceiving the world through a unique, custom-crafted lens. Everything that passes in front of it is bent by its particular shape. We can be sure others, with their own unique lenses, don’t hear what we say exactly the way we mean it. That’s why it’s so important to consider intention. The energy of our intention often communicates more than the specific words used. When we judge, regardless of the words we use, the energy feels unpleasant. On the other hand, when we radiate love…

That’s what’s felt.

Jarl and Steve

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Do Something New

Feb 18 2017

If you want different results, do something different. It sounds obvious, but doing things differently isn’t always so easy. Think of some small steps you can take to incorporate into your daily life the changes you’d like to make. If you’d like to be healthier, dedicate yourself to more exercise everyday and cut out stuff from your diet that you know isn’t good for you. If you’d like to be happier, notice when you’re complaining and instead think of things you appreciate. If you want more love in your life, start giving it…

To yourself.

Jarl and Steve 

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Boundaries and Limits

Feb 17 2017

Saying yes to opportunities and adventures helps you grow. Being open to new ideas and trying out different ways of being in the world helps you expand your consciousness. But there are times when saying no helps you evolve and grow, too. If you continue to put up with what you don’t like, it’ll keep showing up. Saying NO to all that you don’t want frees up your time, energy and other resources to say YES to all the stuff…

You DO.

Jarl and Steve

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Our Judgments

Feb 16 2017

There’s a difference between judging and discerning. Our judgments tell us about ourselves; discernments about the situation. Judgment is a projection of a disowned part of ourselves onto others. When we feel strong, negative emotions, disdain for another, or superiority, it’s a signal to look within. Discernment is more detached, like acknowledging what is. Discernment can co-exist with compassion and understanding. It’s healthy not to fool ourselves about our judgments. Owning them and recognizing what they have to teach us is how we develop greater self-awareness and…

Authenticity.

Jarl and Steve

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Opposition Summons Greatness

Feb 15 2017

Without challenges, difficulties and even hardships we’d soften, stagnate and decay. Muscles need to be used to be strong, impact is healthy for bones and stretching ourselves makes us reach higher then we might otherwise. People who examine their lives will honestly tell you that the most difficult times they’ve experienced resulted in their biggest personal growth and opportunities. We actually need opposition to achieve our full potential. If we want to maximize every moment and experience life in flow, when hardship presents itself, we just need to remember that…

It’s for us.

Jarl and Steve   

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Love it Up!

Feb 14 2017

The amount of love you feel in your life is a reflection of the way you feel about yourself. Whether you’re enthusiastically grateful for your mate or happy alone, it’s a sign that you have healthy self-love. If you’re not happy with the way your mate or the world treats you, look within and find the ways you’re being unkind or unloving to yourself. Healthy self-love and acceptance are like magnets that draw love in to you in every aspect of your life. If you want more love in your life…

Love yourself more.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Jarl and Steve

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Interconnectedness of Opposites

Feb 13 2017

Just like a coin, everything has two sides. We can only know something by knowing its opposite. We identify what we like by identifying what we don’t. When challenges, disagreements and difficulties arise, the recognition that both sides must exist can help bring us back to balance, even love. The ‘other side’ is crucial in order for us to recognize what we need to do to grow and evolve as we wish. This interdependence demonstrates that in spite of being on diametrically opposing sides of an issue, we are…

Inescapably connected.

Jarl and Steve

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How to Get What You Want

Feb 12 2017

We can’t predict what kind of life experience lies ahead, but we can develop certainty about how we’ll handle it. The more dissatisfied we are right now, the likelier we are to be unhappy about what comes next. If we’re in the habit of feeling disgruntled, it’s becomes natural to look for what’s wrong in every situation. On the other hand, when we discipline ourselves to look for the gift in everything, it begins to feel like life aligns with us and creates a world that brings us…

Just what we want.

Jarl and Steve

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How You Choose to Look

Feb 11 2017

No matter what you’re dissatisfied with, if you find something to like about it, and consistently focus your attention on that rather than on the dissatisfaction, you’ll begin to experience a transformation in your life. It might change the very situation in question or move you out of it altogether and into something that matches the quality of your new focus. The more time you spend on dissatisfaction, the more that energy will spread into other areas of your life. Your experience is created by how you look…

Look for the good.

Jarl and Steve

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