Positive Change

Positive change doesn’t come from spewing discontent about what we don’t like. Since what we focus on expands, it’s much more effective to focus on what we want rather than on what we don’t want. Spending time ranting about what’s wrong...

Control Freak

We all have a natural impulse to try to control the details of our immediate environment. While this may come from a basic survival instinct, the impulse often extends beyond things that could be classified as our business. This is where we run into problems with...

Find the Kernel

Every experience contains within it something that can be of benefit. There are no exceptions. It may enhance your well-being, expand your awareness or improve your ability to connect with others. Failure to find the benefit isn’t proof that the axiom is false,...

What We Think

What we think of other people tells us more about ourselves than it does about them. Most of our intense judgments come from disowned feelings about ourselves. The stronger our reaction to something, the more likely it is that we’re projecting. When we’re...

Asking Questions

If you’re wondering what to do or how to solve a particular challenge, looking for answers seems natural, but there’s a much more efficacious approach that brings remarkable results: Asking questions. Formulating a question gives your subconscious mind the...