More Story Won’t Help

Sep 03 2015

Rehashing past relationships, wrongs and wreckages won’t bring relief. You can’t re-do the conditions that caused the present. If you want to feel better, you have to improve your vibration in the now. The way to get there is to be totally present. As you sit, stand or lie in this moment, can you be at peace? Expanding this outpost of well-being into a pervading colony of happiness is a simple matter of…

Frequent repetition.

Jarl and Steve

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Conscious Action = Less Stress

Sep 02 2015

Straying from our core values always elicits a call from the Universe to realign our actions with our integrity. Sometimes it’s a quiet signal, sometimes it’s painfully dramatic. Living out our compulsions unconsciously creates stress, drama and blow-back. On some level, we know whether or not our actions will serve everyone involved. When our desires and needs lead us astray, referring to the Golden Rule will always take us back to the right path. Treating others as we would have them treat us is how we…

Love ourselves more.

Jarl and Steve

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Imperfect Communication

Sep 01 2015

If you’ve ever played the Telephone game, (also called Gossip) you know how humorously and unpredictably messages can morph as they pass from one person to the next. But in the game of life, it isn’t so entertaining when what you intended to communicate wasn’t heard the way you wanted. This game is a good reminder of just how precarious human communication is. Keep this in mind the next time you feel offended by your interpretation of something someone said or did. It’s possible that the way you heard it…

Wasn’t what they meant.

Jarl and Steve    

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Enjoy the Dance

Aug 31 2015

Though you may feel like an individual looking at a world that has the power to fill you with pleasure, pain, joy or suffering, the world is actually inside of you. It’s your consciousness that creates what you see. You aren’t a victim of circumstance, you’re the creator of it. The stories you spin about right and wrong, good and bad, should and shouldn’t determine how you feel. If you want to have a better experience of life, accept what you see, look for the benefit, take challenges in stride and…

Enjoy the ride.

Jarl and Steve

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Deception Does Damage

Aug 30 2015

Lying wreaks havoc in your life. It consumes ever-greater energy the longer you keep it up and lowers your self-esteem because deep down you know you’re living out of your integrity. It’s an unempowered approach to life because you aren’t willing to live your truth. When you deceive others, you’re also deceiving yourself. Try as you might to justify your actions, you don’t really believe your own story or you wouldn’t try to mislead. The good news is that the negative side-affects of deception begin to diminish as soon as you…

Come clean.

Jarl and Steve

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Gratitude Habitude

Aug 29 2015

Acknowledging what you love about life elevates your personal energy. Your thoughts create an energy that attracts like a magnet. Regularly focusing on what you’re grateful ensures that what you’ll notice most is whatever is in alignment with that. Take a couple of minutes everyday to acknowledge the abundance you already have. Write down at least three things that you feel thankful for. Challenge yourself to continually add new items to the list. Not only will you become more aware of your current good fortune…

It’ll get even better.

Jarl and Steve

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Peace Now

Aug 28 2015

If you want to feel better right now, accept what is. Allow this moment to be. Honor your feelings and remember that not all feelings need to be acted on even though they do need to be felt. Arguing with the reality of the situation is stressful and futile. When you admit to yourself that what’s showing up in this moment is done, you’ll get immediate relief. When you’re relieved, you can relax. Relaxing helps you take intelligent action that positively affects what comes next. Acceptance helps you feel peaceful now and

In the future.

Jarl and Steve

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Get Real

Aug 27 2015

Conscious evolution requires extreme self-honesty. In contrast, self-deception invariably leads to feeling stuck. If you aren’t willing to admit to yourself that you’re lost, you won’t look for or accept sound guidance and that slows you down. The scariest part of honest self-evaluation is that you might discover that you aren’t quite as evolved as you thought. Once you acknowledge where you’re really at, you can correct your course and continue to grow. Get real with yourself, accept where you are, act with integrity and move on up

The evolutionary ladder.

Jarl and Steve

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Letting Go of Striving

Aug 26 2015

So much of life is spent striving, we hardly notice we’re doing it. Chasing after more keeps our attention on what we don’t have and prevents us from enjoying all that we do have. It’s a socially sanctioned, yet insidious habit that plagues us no matter how much we achieve or acquire. When we intentionally shift our focus to the good fortune we already enjoy, we develop a remarkable sense of freedom and contentment. Gratitude is the shortcut to the Now and that is…

The best place to be.

Jarl and Steve

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The Quest to Feel Good

Aug 25 2015

Almost everything we do, we do because we think it will make us feel good. But it’s not really what we do that affects how we feel. What actually determines how we feel is a decision to feel one way or another about something. Since we’re the ones deciding when we will and won’t be satisfied, we could just decide to feel good for anything that happens. We could choose to be joyful for the most compelling and easily accessible reason of all: simply because…

We’re alive…

Jarl and Steve

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The Inner Beginner

Aug 24 2015

There’s clear benefit to practicing something over a long period of time. You can develop subtlety, expertise and can eventually discover the true art of it. But hazards arise with repetition unless you maintain ‘beginner’s mind’. When you become really good at something, you can miss new insights because of your well-established expectations. Your mind doesn’t try to figure out alternative angles of approach since it already ‘knows’ what to do. That’s why masters constantly experiment with their technique. They understand that when you know everything, you stagnate; when you try new things…

You evolve.

Jarl and Steve

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True Connection

Aug 23 2015

Who do you like to spend time with? People who regale you with stories of their latest impressive accomplishments or people who are really present with you in the moment you’re sharing? Egos love to take turns talking about themselves, but your authentic self is not so interested in cementing an identity. When you open your mind and heart enough to relate honestly and deeply with others about your feelings in the current moment, everything else seems like…

Small talk.

Jarl and Steve

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Your Inner Self

Aug 22 2015

The Inner You has nothing whatsoever to do with the external details of your life. It can’t be sullied, compromised or victimized. It’s a witness to everything that happens. It’s beyond the tension of the polarities that makeup everyday existence. It resides permanently in peaceful contentment. During the most challenging times it’s crucial and most helpful to connect with this part of yourself. Imagine that you’re viewing the situation from 30 feet above your body and looking at it with detached curiosity. What’s happening isn’t who you are, it’s just part of your experience…

A very small part.

Jarl and Steve

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Speak Your Truth

Aug 21 2015

Do you ever hold your tongue while pretending to feel or think something just to keep the peace? Is it more important to you to be liked than to be true to yourself? Ironically, people who honestly express themselves, even when their opinions aren’t popular, are appreciated because others feel they can trust them. Contrarians who take opposing positions for the entertainment value of pushing other people’s buttons are another matter. Speaking up about what you honestly feel not only makes others feel safe around you, it’s a sign of something even more important…

Self love.

Jarl and Steve

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Get Serious!

Aug 20 2015

About lightening up, that is. Since nobody knows what the future will bring, you may not have time to do it later. Postponing enjoyment until some hypothetical future when everything conforms to your standards is risky business. Life doesn’t have to be a serious matter unless you want it to be. It’s a blessing. If you don’t know what you want out of it, start investigating right now. What are your dreams? What aspects of others’ lives look interesting, inviting, fun? Whatever you want, it wants you too. But not later…

Now.

Jarl and Steve

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Integrity Brings Relief

Aug 19 2015

What can you do in this moment to feel (even) better about yourself and life? What would bring you the greatest relief and joy? One of the most powerful things you can do to enhance your personal well-being is align your actions with what you fundamentally believe to be right, good and true. That’s integrity. If you feel overweight. Eat less. Out of shape? Walk more. Too busy? Clear quiet time for yourself. Overwhelmed? Meditate more. When you act in alignment with your integrity, life…

Feels good.

Jarl and Steve

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