Personal Realities Vary

Feb 19 2017

We all live in our own personal reality, perceiving the world through a unique, custom-crafted lens. Everything that passes in front of it is bent by its particular shape. We can be sure others, with their own unique lenses, don’t hear what we say exactly the way we mean it. That’s why it’s so important to consider intention. The energy of our intention often communicates more than the specific words used. When we judge, regardless of the words we use, the energy feels unpleasant. On the other hand, when we radiate love…

That’s what’s felt.

Jarl and Steve

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Do Something New

Feb 18 2017

If you want different results, do something different. It sounds obvious, but doing things differently isn’t always so easy. Think of some small steps you can take to incorporate into your daily life the changes you’d like to make. If you’d like to be healthier, dedicate yourself to more exercise everyday and cut out stuff from your diet that you know isn’t good for you. If you’d like to be happier, notice when you’re complaining and instead think of things you appreciate. If you want more love in your life, start giving it…

To yourself.

Jarl and Steve 

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Boundaries and Limits

Feb 17 2017

Saying yes to opportunities and adventures helps you grow. Being open to new ideas and trying out different ways of being in the world helps you expand your consciousness. But there are times when saying no helps you evolve and grow, too. If you continue to put up with what you don’t like, it’ll keep showing up. Saying NO to all that you don’t want frees up your time, energy and other resources to say YES to all the stuff…

You DO.

Jarl and Steve

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Our Judgments

Feb 16 2017

There’s a difference between judging and discerning. Our judgments tell us about ourselves; discernments about the situation. Judgment is a projection of a disowned part of ourselves onto others. When we feel strong, negative emotions, disdain for another, or superiority, it’s a signal to look within. Discernment is more detached, like acknowledging what is. Discernment can co-exist with compassion and understanding. It’s healthy not to fool ourselves about our judgments. Owning them and recognizing what they have to teach us is how we develop greater self-awareness and…

Authenticity.

Jarl and Steve

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Opposition Summons Greatness

Feb 15 2017

Without challenges, difficulties and even hardships we’d soften, stagnate and decay. Muscles need to be used to be strong, impact is healthy for bones and stretching ourselves makes us reach higher then we might otherwise. People who examine their lives will honestly tell you that the most difficult times they’ve experienced resulted in their biggest personal growth and opportunities. We actually need opposition to achieve our full potential. If we want to maximize every moment and experience life in flow, when hardship presents itself, we just need to remember that…

It’s for us.

Jarl and Steve   

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Love it Up!

Feb 14 2017

The amount of love you feel in your life is a reflection of the way you feel about yourself. Whether you’re enthusiastically grateful for your mate or happy alone, it’s a sign that you have healthy self-love. If you’re not happy with the way your mate or the world treats you, look within and find the ways you’re being unkind or unloving to yourself. Healthy self-love and acceptance are like magnets that draw love in to you in every aspect of your life. If you want more love in your life…

Love yourself more.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Jarl and Steve

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Interconnectedness of Opposites

Feb 13 2017

Just like a coin, everything has two sides. We can only know something by knowing its opposite. We identify what we like by identifying what we don’t. When challenges, disagreements and difficulties arise, the recognition that both sides must exist can help bring us back to balance, even love. The ‘other side’ is crucial in order for us to recognize what we need to do to grow and evolve as we wish. This interdependence demonstrates that in spite of being on diametrically opposing sides of an issue, we are…

Inescapably connected.

Jarl and Steve

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How to Get What You Want

Feb 12 2017

We can’t predict what kind of life experience lies ahead, but we can develop certainty about how we’ll handle it. The more dissatisfied we are right now, the likelier we are to be unhappy about what comes next. If we’re in the habit of feeling disgruntled, it’s becomes natural to look for what’s wrong in every situation. On the other hand, when we discipline ourselves to look for the gift in everything, it begins to feel like life aligns with us and creates a world that brings us…

Just what we want.

Jarl and Steve

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How You Choose to Look

Feb 11 2017

No matter what you’re dissatisfied with, if you find something to like about it, and consistently focus your attention on that rather than on the dissatisfaction, you’ll begin to experience a transformation in your life. It might change the very situation in question or move you out of it altogether and into something that matches the quality of your new focus. The more time you spend on dissatisfaction, the more that energy will spread into other areas of your life. Your experience is created by how you look…

Look for the good.

Jarl and Steve

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Errors of Negation

Feb 10 2017

Throughout history humans have repeatedly proved the inaccuracy of ‘truths’ that were previously undisputed and the validity of what before seemed to be fanciful delusions. It’s notable that people who make those discoveries are very rarely cynical, reflexive naysayers or chronic skeptics. They maintain open minds, explore alternatives, willingly consider diverse viewpoints and never automatically reject. Astute students of life understand that the consequences of cynicism, suspicion and disbelief are far more limiting and destructive than those that accompany occasional gullibility. Close-mindedness limits possibilities and supports stagnation in the status quo. Open-mindedness expands possibilities and…

Serenades growth.

Jarl and Steve 

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Ideas Versus Experience

Feb 09 2017

Barring a sudden epiphany, changing your habitual emotional set point requires that you actually practice feeling the way you want to feel before it becomes your everyday reality. For example, you could read every book there is about happiness and sound like a veritable expert, but that won’t make you happy. What will help is finding aspects of your current reality that can make you feel the way you want to, focusing on them regularly and creating the desired feeling until that becomes your habitual way of being…

Focus, embody, BE

Jarl and Steve

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The Classroom of Life

Feb 08 2017

We can never know for sure why anything happens to us or anyone else. All we can know is how we feel about our experience. The way we process our feelings is what determines the speed and extent of our personal growth. When something triggers, hurts or angers us, sitting with our responses and feeling the physical sensations in our body ensures that we register everything we need to without adding layers of mental obsession and story. This technique not only helps dissolve our current issues, it helps clear our past and create…

A happier future. 

Jarl and Steve

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Energetic Beings

Feb 07 2017

We are each amalgams of energy, vibrating at different rates. Though we express ourselves uniquely, we’re all made of the very same essence. The quality of the energy that vibrates through our bodies is directly related to our thoughts, moods and actions. Whether we’re happy, accepting and peaceful — or sad, angry or anxious, our energy will reflect it. Mistaking who we are for our individual expression rather than the force behind it, causes us to identify with our story and battle over differences. When we know who we are, we know our story is something..

We control.

Jarl and Steve

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Victimhood: A State of Mind

Feb 06 2017

When something that ‘happens to you’ makes you feel bad, the emotional response you choose to reinforce will determine whether you identify as a victim or a beneficiary possessed with new insight. You can focus on feeling betrayed, helpless and sorry for yourself, while wishing things had gone differently. OR, you can use that same energy to understand how what happened was exactly what you needed to expand your understanding of yourself and the world. You can celebrate this growth realizing that being ‘perfect’ won’t make you happy, but being self-aware…

Will.

Jarl and Steve

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What Is Right Action?

Feb 05 2017

Everybody evaluates their own behavior according to their internal standards. Acting inconsistently with this code is self-destructive because it causes cognitive dissonance that creates side effects of psychological and emotional discomfort. Right action doesn’t mean simply obeying an external social or moral code, it means behaving in a way that’s consistent with our beliefs. Everything we think, say and do has both internal and external consequences. Acting in alignment with our beliefs, helps create internal peace, flow and well-being. That amounts to…

Right action. 

Jarl and Steve

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One Trick Pony

Feb 04 2017

Some people think that practicing gratitude means ignoring all the ‘terrible things’ in the world so you can selfishly live in blissful ignorance. But feeling grateful in the face of hardship and suffering isn’t for the faint of heart. Healthy gratitude requires strength and resolve and necessitates a deep awareness that yin and yang are present in all life. Your thoughts are powerfully creative. Because your well-being is intimately connected with how effective you are at anything, training the narrative in your mind to reflect gratitude might just be… 

The best trick of all.

Jarl and Steve 

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