Our Own Way

Mar 30 2017

Though others are quick to offer advice when we’re experiencing relationship or health issues, each of our journeys are ultimately taken alone. Only we can decide what will work best to make us feel good. We are the navigators and adventurers on our totally unique journey. After we’ve taken in all that others have to offer, the place to look for the most fulfilling answers is always the same…

Within.

Jarl and Steve

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Journey of Life

Mar 29 2017

Our journey through life is short. The wise know that even though we can’t control events or how long we’re here, we do get to choose how we interpret what happens. The key factor determining our quality of life is whether we meet it with acceptance or resistance. How conscious we are is what determines whether we sleepwalk through a seemingly random series of confusing events or live a meaningful and joyous life. When we’re clear about our values and think, speak and act in alignment with our truth…

Life is good.

Jarl and Steve

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Imagine

Mar 28 2017

Think of someone for whom you hold a grievance or of a situation in your life that feels wrong, unfair or offensive. Without focusing on specifics or adding energy to the situation, just notice the sensations you feel in your body when you think about that topic. Imagine how you’d would feel if you were completely free — as if the grievance no longer existed. If you can be free from the grievance or negativity in your imagination, you can be free for real. Letting go of what causes dissatisfaction within, heals you…

From the inside out.

Jarl and Steve

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You Are the Witness

Mar 27 2017

Your ego is the part of you that identifies with thoughts and things. While necessary, it’s not the real you. You are the witnessing consciousness residing in the background. By consciously watching the complex mix of constantly changing thoughts and emotions and identifying with the part that’s watching, you can transcend the ego. With practice, this witnessing presence that peacefully enjoys the play of life, moves forward in your awareness and gently nudges the ego, with all it’s complicated strategies and suffering, into the background where it belongs. This allows you to enjoy…
The play of life. 
Jarl and Steve.

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No Time for Nonsense

Mar 26 2017

If you want to enhance the quality of your life — drop self-destructive activities and limit the time you spend with people who don’t support your well-being. Look at the reality of your daily life and trim the harmful debris of empty, stressful behaviors that aren’t in alignment with who and how you want to be. It may take a concerted effort to acknowledge and address these patterns, but pursuing friends and activities that support the best in you, is a sure way to maximize…

Your happiness.

Jarl and Steve.

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When Life Is Good

Mar 25 2017

If you’re not content in this moment, think back to a particular period in your life when everything felt aligned, easy and in flow. Recall how good things came your way and how you attained goals almost effortlessly. Remember when you felt good for no reason at all? Center your mind in those memories and feel the sensations in your body. Feel the warmth in your belly and chest and sense your inner smile. Repeat this exercise regularly and you’ll soon understand that your ability to invoke well-being is entirely within your grasp…

In every moment. 

Jarl and Steve

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Growth Exercise

Mar 24 2017

As we move though the joys and challenges of everyday life, we can learn and grow from our experiences or close up and shrink away. Whether we evolve or shy away depends on what kind of meaning we create out of our experiences. When we create resistance, it pushes back at us. If we don’t listen, the signals get louder and louder. When we accept life as a playground for personal evolution, every situation has the potential to expand our understanding. When we truly open to what is, life…

Goes into flow. 

.Jarl and Steve

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Trusting Attitude

Mar 23 2017

Since change is a constant in this life, it’s makes sense to develop a healthy attitude about it. The way you prepare for big life changes greatly impacts how you experience them. If the unknowns cause you to live in fear, you’ll miss opportunities that arise and your energy will align with the things that match those fearful thoughts. Decisions based in fear rarely lead to happy outcomes. The very act of trusting that life gives you just what you need is a wise approach, because that’s the only way you’ll discover that…

It does.

Jarl and Steve. 

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The Simple Truth

Mar 22 2017

Our identity/ego ensures that we consider our own perception of reality to be the truth. Everything we see is refracted to conform to our beliefs and expectations. The spin we put on our perceptions causes a series of delusions that need to be constantly defended because they conflict with reality. This defensiveness puts us at war internally and externally with what is. Understanding this helps inspire us to look beyond our conditioning, loosen our attachment to our beliefs and live more in alignment with the simple truth that we all create our own… 
Experience of reality.

Jarl and Steve

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The Ultimate Objective

Mar 21 2017

Though we focus on vastly diverse life goals and employ different strategies to achieve them, we all want the same basic thing: to feel good. Our belief systems can range from glorifying hardship and sacrifice now in exchange for well-being later, to exalting morality, charity or loving kindness as the essential ingredients. Whether we believe that sacrifice, hard work, generosity, possessions or achievement will bring happiness, true and sustainable contentment is ultimately the result of one simple thing: choosing to be at peace in the moment with exactly…

What is

Jarl and Steve  

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Life’s Like an Echo Chamber

Mar 20 2017

Every word we speak, thought we think and action we take has an impact on our lives. This can seem both unfair and, at the same time, fantastic. It’s unfair because we may, from our conditioning (through no fault of our own), have developed perspectives, attitudes and habits that don’t support our well-being. It’s fantastic because when we understand that everything we do invariably adds to or subtracts from our quality of life, it leads to a dedication and commitment to think, act and do whatever will support us in being who we…

Want to be.

Jarl and Steve

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As Within, So Without

Mar 19 2017

The quality of our relationships are perfect indicators of how we feel about ourselves. If we’re highly critical of ourselves, we’ll act the same way out in the world. If we’re kind to ourselves, we’ll naturally be kind to others. Though most self-talk occurs slightly below our conscious awareness, it forms the foundation for the emotional environment we live in and how we relate to others. The more we love and respect ourselves, the more harmony we experience overall. If we seek greater peace and connection, we have to create those conditions first…

Inside ourselves. 

Jarl and Steve

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Tapping

Mar 18 2017

This isn’t about wiretapping! It’s about tapping points on the body’s energy channels (meridians) to move stagnant or blocked energy. This powerful technique also uses unconditional love and self-acceptance to help facilitate greater emotional, physical, mental and spiritual balance. Tapping can create movement in almost any area of your life in which you feel stuck. You use your fingers to tap on particular acupuncture points, while you keep the issue in your mind and describe the situation as it is, for example: “Even though my knee hurts and I’m afraid it’ll never get better, I completely love and accept myself.”

Whether you’re in physical pain, feeling emotionally down, mentally unclear or experiencing a crisis of meaning, tapping is a highly effective way to release blocked energy, which allows you to move into greater satisfaction and fulfillment.

Hard to believe? Try it! 

Jarl and Steve

For instructions on how to Tap, go to this emotional freedom technique video.

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The Untrustworthiness of Fear

Mar 17 2017

Fear is an unreliable motivator. Imminent danger is one thing, but fearing the future because we don’t currently have all the information isn’t rational or sound. We’ve all worried needlessly about so many things that might have happened (but never did) that it’s easy to see how frequently we err in fearing the future. Focusing on fearful scenarios predisposes us to being blind to solutions. When the internal fear monster rears its head, just say no thank you and look forward to discovering how it all works out because, when problems show up…

So do solutions.

Jarl and Steve

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The Integrity of Your Word

Mar 16 2017

Do you make plans with others that sound fun at the time, but when the day comes and your mood is different, you cancel? If so, you may be unaware of the message you’re sending. Since others have cleared their schedules to make time for you, canceling communicates that you don’t value their time or your own word. Even if others ‘understand’ your need to back out, frequent plan changing conveys a lack of respect for yourself and them. To avoid eroding your friendship and your self-esteem, keep your word! That in itself makes commitments…

Worth keeping.

Jarl and Steve

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Curating Our Experience

Mar 15 2017

You can be an intellectual rock star, able to recite ‘intelligent’ opinions on a variety of topics at will, but only experience can help you enjoy the fruits of true wisdom and understanding. These are cultivated by becoming aware of the connection between your thinking and your quality of life (i.e., how you feel). Habitually judging, critiquing, complaining or comparing creates an unpleasant emotional and psychological environment. When you’re discerning about what you put into your consciousness, you’re more much satisfied with the quality of life you get…

Out of it. 

Jarl and Steve 

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