Judgments Are Revealing

Jul 24 2016

Our judgments of others are really about ourselves. When we’re unable to admit that we could be that bad, we project the judgment out onto others and dislike it out there. When we can accept ourselves unconditionally, we do the same for others. When we’re self-loving, disharmony inspires us to try to understand rather than blame and criticize. When our buttons get pushed it’s the best time to ask ourselves why we’re reacting so strongly. Looking at ourselves with honesty, compassion and forgiveness helps us meet the outside world with understanding and…

Right action.

Jarl and Steve

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The Mind’s Shifty Ground

Jul 23 2016

When you obsess, you mentally stir up a pot of worry, anxiety, fear, and angst. Overthinking problems doesn’t give you a reasonable perspective, it turns you into a hamster, mindlessly repeating the same sentences and scenarios until you’re worked into a near frenzy. Your thinking created the agitation. The way out is through feeling. Mentally scan your body and notice your sensations. When you do it without energizing or reacting, it brings you back to a state where you can most effectively respond to life…

Balance.

Jarl and Steve.

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Disciplining Your Mind

Jul 22 2016

When you recognize that your thoughts and judgments create your attitudes, emotions and experience, you must also realize that mastering the art of controlling them is the most life enhancing skill that you can possibly develop. Until you’re aware of what’s actually creating your reality, you’ll feel like a victim of circumstances, as if life’s happening to you. But, the truth is empowering: life always happens for you. The momentary discomfort of accepting personal responsibility for the way you feel is far exceeded by the benefits you will reap. It puts you in…

The driver’s seat!

Jarl and Steve 

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Reactions Create War or Peace

Jul 21 2016

Our experiences are created by our reactions. If a car is careening toward us, swerving to avoid a head-on would be an intelligent reaction. We wouldn’t crash into them just to teach them a lesson. Martial arts teaches us that the simple act of turning or stepping aside to avoid the oncoming force of an opponent can spare us while they topple from their own momentum. The same wisdom is true for our emotional well-being. If someone is distressing us, the best thing we can do to disarm them and be loving to ourselves is…

Not engage.

Jarl and Steve

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Magical Thinking

Jul 20 2016

The definition of Magical thinking is attributing a causal or synchronistic relationship between events, which seemingly cannot be justified by reason and observation. It’s used pejoratively by those who consider themselves rational and scientific. Though new discoveries upset old beliefs about reality every several years, rationalists consider truth, only what has been proven thus far. Philosophers and mystics who don’t allow their thinking to be constrained by the obvious or proven, perceive the hidden (and perfect) sequence of cause and effect, which is often verified later scientifically. It’s not superstitious just because it’s…

Outside the box.

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Good Thoughts, Good Life

Jul 19 2016

If you consciously select the thoughts you think, your life experience will reflect it. Your physical, mental and emotional well-being depend upon your thinking. Entertaining fear and judgment makes you miserable. Focusing on your blessings makes you feel fortunate. There are people who have lost limbs who are still joyful while others who have every imaginable material luxury remain miserable. This is not because of biological good fortune or curse, but rather because of carefully cultivated habits of thought. You have control of the most important factor determining your well-being. Mastering your thoughts means…

Mastering your life.

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Shed the Burden

Jul 18 2016

The biggest benefit of learning to stay present in the moment is how much relief you feel. When you’re focused on what’s happening now, you’re not polluting your awareness with stuff that’s worrisome, anxiety producing or disappointing. Preoccupation with past or future is like dragging heavy luggage around that wears you down mentally and emotionally. When you’re present, you walk with a spring in your step and a smile on your face. You’re able to appreciate what’s happening now. If a problem does show up, you’ll have the unburdened capacity to successfully…

Handle it.

Jarl and Steve 

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All One

Jul 17 2016

Everything you can see or sense is a product of the same energetic force. When you think you’re separate, it’s easier to take on the role of victim and persecutor. Failing to understand the fundamental connectedness of all that exists, you work and struggle against what is essentially yourself. You’re like a leaf on the branch of a gigantic tree that draws energetic nourishment from the same powerful force that animates everything. Thinking you’re separate makes you fearful, competitive, anxious and suspicious. If you want to feel connected, assured, relaxed and relieved…

Identify as the force.

Jarl and Steve

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You’re Driving

Jul 16 2016

Your journey on the highway of life can feel like an aggravating traffic jam or a drive through beautiful countryside. It just depends on how you choose to see it. The way you frame this moment determines not only how you’ll experience the next one, but what it’ll contain. If you blame the world for the way you see it, you’ll feel like a victim of circumstance. If you take personal responsibility, you’ll see that the power to create a wonderful journey has little to do with your external circumstances and everything to do with…

Your choices.

Jarl and Steve

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Feeling Fearful or Blue?

Jul 15 2016

When you’re feeling sad, anxious or scared, ignoring the feelings or fighting them won’t help. The short cut through the discomfort necessitates acknowledging the truth of how you feel, feeling the sensations brought about by these emotions and then mentally cleaning on the feelings. When you catch yourself stewing over what’s making you feel bad, replace it with something that will make you feel better and heal the emotional hole you’ve been digging. Think about the situation, allow yourself to feel the associated feelings, then repeat the mantra…

‘Thank you, I love you’.

Jarl and Steve

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Self-Acceptance Heals the Shadow

Jul 14 2016

Everyone has a shadow that contains aspects of personality that the conscious ego doesn’t recognize in itself. Until you’ve accepted yourself unconditionally, you’ll deny your disowned qualities and project them onto others while feeling you’re superior. Because your most intense emotions reveal your shadow, it’s important to reintegrate those aspects of yourself by acknowledging them. Next time you have judgments or criticisms about others, think of it as your shadow either showing you what you need to work on or what you aren’t allowing yourself to express. Awareness…

Heals.

Jarl and Steve

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Thoughts and Words Matter

Jul 13 2016

If you could fully grasp the effect your thoughts and words have on your life, you’d probably be shocked. While it might seem tedious to monitor your thinking, it’s far easier than living with the repercussions of unconscious habits. Your subconscious mind absorbs all complaining, judgment and criticism as if it’s about you. This makes you suspicious of others and insecure about yourself. You can avoid these side effects by exercising self-discipline. Try to only think about what you’d like to have in your life. Once you experience the results, you’ll want to make…

That a habit.

Jarl and Steve  

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Tap the Grid

Jul 12 2016

We live in a grid of interconnectedness. Everything in the universe is part of the same matrix, made of the same stuff — vibrating, revolving, moving particles that together create energy, experience and stuff. Though it seems that manipulating gross matter creates reality, wise-people know that the phenomenal world is produced by signals aligning with other signals of a similar quality. It is our emotions that determine the quality of our signal and what we notice and therefore experience in life. Curating our emotions is how we design our lives. Doing it consciously is how we…

Rock it.

Jarl and Steve 

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Act As If

Jul 11 2016

Getting what you want necessitates envisioning it. You don’t have to be able to see the exact path, you just have to be able to feel what it’ll be like to have it. Doing that puts you in alignment with whatever would give you the feeling you’re after. Plus, it feels really good while you’re doing it. Sticking with the vision allows you to loosen up to enjoy that feeling however it shows up. When you focus on your feelings, life…

Fills in the details.

Jarl and Steve

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You’re the Artist

Jul 10 2016

Our thoughts are like the paint on the canvas of our lives. Until we understand that the type of thoughts we entertain actually determine the quality of our artwork, we’ll continue to wonder why life doesn’t play out the way we want it to. Once we understand that we control the brush strokes and are capable of creating a masterpiece or a muddled mess, each moment becomes an exciting opportunity to mold, sculpt and design the life we want. Harmonious lives result from an absence of regret and shame and an abundance of compassion, love…

And gratitude.

Jarl and Steve

 

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Looking for Love

Jul 09 2016

Next time you feel the urge to convince or manipulate someone into doing what you want, try resisting that temptation. Succeeding won’t genuinely make you feel good because deep down you know it isn’t real. Trying to control others originates from a lack of self-love and fear, which can only be healed from within. Rather than going with your urge to control, go within and feel your feelings. Just acknowledging and feeling the emptiness you want them to fill is, ironically, the remedy that will make you feel whole. The love you’re really needing…

Is in you.

Jarl and Steve

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