Beauty Balances

Jul 30 2016

There’s untold beauty to behold if we just open our eyes. But sometimes we forget to look for it because we’re swimming in a self-created, toxic stew of unpleasantness generated by unskillful thinking. Fortunately everyone has access to almost instant relief. Focusing on beauty expands and refreshes the mind. Whether in the outer physical world or the inner landscape of a joyful mind, appreciating beauty balances the negative consequences of unconscious and self-destructive mental habits. There’s beauty all around us, our job is to…

Look for it.

Jarl and Steve

 

 

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Your Effect on the Matrix

Jul 29 2016

If you drill down you’ll find that everything, in its essence, is built from the same stuff. Since everything springs from this ocean of sub-atomic particles or energy or mind or God or whatever you want to call it — then everything in existence is connected. Every current, ripple, white cap, storm and tsunami springs from, is affected by and goes back into the same body of water. Just like the different aspects of the ocean, you are affected by everyone and everyone is…

Affected by you.

Jarl and Steve.

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Ask Questions

Jul 28 2016

When faced with a conundrum, it’s much more effective to ask a question than go straight for an answer. Because your awareness of what’s possible is limited to what you already know, looking for answers keeps you floundering around in familiar territory with less creative possibilities. Formulating what you want into words gives the unlimited, creative substance of the Universe the information it needs to fulfill your order. Just asking a simple question such as, “How can I get relief from this?” will prompt your subconscious mind to see what it would ordinarily gloss right over…

The perfect solution.

Jarl and Steve

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Creation through Cognition

Jul 27 2016

Your mind is a closed, repetitive loop. That’s why it’s so easy to confuse your thinking with who you actually are. Science explains that your physiological responses are similar whether you think about doing something or actually do it. That means you experience the world in the way you think about it. Framing reality in ways that promote your well-being and make you feel good isn’t easy, but it’s far easier than struggling to make the entire world conform to your standards. If you want to enjoy life, think about the world…

You want to see.

Jarl and Steve

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Go with Love

Jul 26 2016

How you think will determine if you’re happy or disgruntled. The reality you experience isn’t actually what is, but rather how you define it. Every time you criticize, assess blame, express intolerance or arrogantly dismiss others, you immerse yourself in an unpleasant and undesirable frame of mind. The most magnificent super power you possess is the ability to consciously look for the qualities and characteristics that you’d like to see. If you want to live in a friendly, compassionate and caring world, begin by looking at the world and finding those qualities in…

Everything around you.

Jarl and Steve

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Inferiority-Superiority Complex

Jul 25 2016

Feeling superior to others about your talents, possessions (or anything else) signals an actual feeling of inferiority. The two always go together. The way to grow beyond the eternally unsatisfying superior-inferior continuum is to fully accept yourself as-is. When you’re grateful for your gifts without measuring your value in relation to others, you can appreciate everyone’s successes. Awareness of your own motivation for comparison helps you see the truth. Once you see it, you realize that the alternative to being a captive in the world of image, identity and comparison is something far more satisfying…

Freedom.

Jarl and Steve.

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Judgments Are Revealing

Jul 24 2016

Our judgments of others are really about ourselves. When we’re unable to admit that we could be that bad, we project the judgment out onto others and dislike it out there. When we can accept ourselves unconditionally, we do the same for others. When we’re self-loving, disharmony inspires us to try to understand rather than blame and criticize. When our buttons get pushed it’s the best time to ask ourselves why we’re reacting so strongly. Looking at ourselves with honesty, compassion and forgiveness helps us meet the outside world with understanding and…

Right action.

Jarl and Steve

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The Mind’s Shifty Ground

Jul 23 2016

When you obsess, you mentally stir up a pot of worry, anxiety, fear, and angst. Overthinking problems doesn’t give you a reasonable perspective, it turns you into a hamster, mindlessly repeating the same sentences and scenarios until you’re worked into a near frenzy. Your thinking created the agitation. The way out is through feeling. Mentally scan your body and notice your sensations. When you do it without energizing or reacting, it brings you back to a state where you can most effectively respond to life…

Balance.

Jarl and Steve.

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Disciplining Your Mind

Jul 22 2016

When you recognize that your thoughts and judgments create your attitudes, emotions and experience, you must also realize that mastering the art of controlling them is the most life enhancing skill that you can possibly develop. Until you’re aware of what’s actually creating your reality, you’ll feel like a victim of circumstances, as if life’s happening to you. But, the truth is empowering: life always happens for you. The momentary discomfort of accepting personal responsibility for the way you feel is far exceeded by the benefits you will reap. It puts you in…

The driver’s seat!

Jarl and Steve 

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Reactions Create War or Peace

Jul 21 2016

Our experiences are created by our reactions. If a car is careening toward us, swerving to avoid a head-on would be an intelligent reaction. We wouldn’t crash into them just to teach them a lesson. Martial arts teaches us that the simple act of turning or stepping aside to avoid the oncoming force of an opponent can spare us while they topple from their own momentum. The same wisdom is true for our emotional well-being. If someone is distressing us, the best thing we can do to disarm them and be loving to ourselves is…

Not engage.

Jarl and Steve

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Magical Thinking

Jul 20 2016

The definition of Magical thinking is attributing a causal or synchronistic relationship between events, which seemingly cannot be justified by reason and observation. It’s used pejoratively by those who consider themselves rational and scientific. Though new discoveries upset old beliefs about reality every several years, rationalists consider truth, only what has been proven thus far. Philosophers and mystics who don’t allow their thinking to be constrained by the obvious or proven, perceive the hidden (and perfect) sequence of cause and effect, which is often verified later scientifically. It’s not superstitious just because it’s…

Outside the box.

Jarl and Steve

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Good Thoughts, Good Life

Jul 19 2016

If you consciously select the thoughts you think, your life experience will reflect it. Your physical, mental and emotional well-being depend upon your thinking. Entertaining fear and judgment makes you miserable. Focusing on your blessings makes you feel fortunate. There are people who have lost limbs who are still joyful while others who have every imaginable material luxury remain miserable. This is not because of biological good fortune or curse, but rather because of carefully cultivated habits of thought. You have control of the most important factor determining your well-being. Mastering your thoughts means…

Mastering your life.

Jarl and Steve

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Shed the Burden

Jul 18 2016

The biggest benefit of learning to stay present in the moment is how much relief you feel. When you’re focused on what’s happening now, you’re not polluting your awareness with stuff that’s worrisome, anxiety producing or disappointing. Preoccupation with past or future is like dragging heavy luggage around that wears you down mentally and emotionally. When you’re present, you walk with a spring in your step and a smile on your face. You’re able to appreciate what’s happening now. If a problem does show up, you’ll have the unburdened capacity to successfully…

Handle it.

Jarl and Steve 

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All One

Jul 17 2016

Everything you can see or sense is a product of the same energetic force. When you think you’re separate, it’s easier to take on the role of victim and persecutor. Failing to understand the fundamental connectedness of all that exists, you work and struggle against what is essentially yourself. You’re like a leaf on the branch of a gigantic tree that draws energetic nourishment from the same powerful force that animates everything. Thinking you’re separate makes you fearful, competitive, anxious and suspicious. If you want to feel connected, assured, relaxed and relieved…

Identify as the force.

Jarl and Steve

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You’re Driving

Jul 16 2016

Your journey on the highway of life can feel like an aggravating traffic jam or a drive through beautiful countryside. It just depends on how you choose to see it. The way you frame this moment determines not only how you’ll experience the next one, but what it’ll contain. If you blame the world for the way you see it, you’ll feel like a victim of circumstance. If you take personal responsibility, you’ll see that the power to create a wonderful journey has little to do with your external circumstances and everything to do with…

Your choices.

Jarl and Steve

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Feeling Fearful or Blue?

Jul 15 2016

When you’re feeling sad, anxious or scared, ignoring the feelings or fighting them won’t help. The short cut through the discomfort necessitates acknowledging the truth of how you feel, feeling the sensations brought about by these emotions and then mentally cleaning on the feelings. When you catch yourself stewing over what’s making you feel bad, replace it with something that will make you feel better and heal the emotional hole you’ve been digging. Think about the situation, allow yourself to feel the associated feelings, then repeat the mantra…

‘Thank you, I love you’.

Jarl and Steve

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