Accidental Incidents

It’s surprising how easily we can miscommunicate our intentions. If we’re feeling slightly off or recently had a bad experience, it can bleed into our interactions with others. Our energy level and sensitivity in the moment all contribute to the clarity of...

Defensiveness = Stagnation

If you react to the world defensively, concocting stories that demonize others’ and justify your own actions, you’ll miss out on crucial feedback. When someone criticizes you, there’s no need to take it personally. It’s about your behavior, not...

Nothing to Defend

There’s absolutely nothing to be defensive about. You’re exactly who you need to be in this moment. Any ‘blind spots’ you have (and we all have them) will create interactions and experiences that will bring them to your attention. Those...

Beyond Defensiveness

When you feel judged, do you explain and justify what you said or did? This rarely convinces others or improves how you feel. Defensive reactions usually come from egos that aren’t sure of themselves, but don’t want that fact pointed out to them by others....

Are You Defensive?

It can be difficult to hear that something you said or did felt bad to a friend or loved one. Mature people don’t want to consciously hurt others, but even when we don’t intend it, our inflection or the way we phrase our words can be misconstrued and...