Don’t Confuse the Actor With the Act

When someone acts unkindly,¬†remember that they are not their actions. They’ve just momentarily forgotten that they are a glorious, limitless being and may be coming from fear. Understanding this not only helps you avoid blaming them, it prevents you from taking...

You Aren’t Your Behavior

You’re an ever-changing, evolving being.¬†Your behavior is the direct result of your level of understanding gained from the sum total of your experiences. Knowing this helps you not confuse your decisions, abilities and actions with who you truly are. When you...

Boundaries with Love

When a friend or family member’s behavior feels consistently depleting to you, let them know how you feel, if you think they’re open to listening. If they can hear you and respond maturely, sweet. If not, be kind to yourself and set appropriate boundaries....

The Ultimate Approval

When your behavior is in alignment with your values, you feel good about yourself. When it’s not, you worry about what others think and try to please them to feel validated. This approach leaves you scrambling and unsure of yourself. Since you can’t really...