Relationships Part Vl

Letting go of the need to control has a deeply liberating effect on our relationships. Trying to control how others behave is exhausting and unpleasant for all involved. We don’t get to decide every twist and turn that we or others experience. Trying will...

Problems Help Us Evolve

When life shows up in unexpected, unpleasant or unwanted ways, it’s natural to feel anxiety or dread. But, just because it’s not what we had in mind, doesn’t mean it’s not what’s best. What shows up for us is often what we need to evolve...

The Path to Freedom

Whatever pushes your emotional buttons is an opportunity to examine and heal an issue from the past that got reactivated in the present. Getting angry, blaming others or shooting the messenger won’t help solve anything. You get triggered when something outside...

Being the Witness

The benefits of being the ‘witness’ can’t really be explained or understood intellectually. That’s because thinking about it just makes it another mental object to identify with or attain. Grappling with it mentally won’t help you have...

Like a Feather

Some days things are a little out of kilter. You spill the coffee, there’s serious traffic and you’re late. It seems like the world is against you. Since you really just want to feel good, reevaluate whether it’s worth getting upset over these...