The Mirror of Life

Everyone we come into contact with reflects back some aspect of how we feel about ourselves. It may seem that unhappy encounters cause unhappy people, but it’s really the other way around. Grumpy, dissatisfied, negative people create interactions that match that...

Consequences Are Telling

Everything we do creates downstream effects. Sometimes our choices work out, other times they don’t. If we blame others instead of taking responsibility for our actions, we can’t accurately assess what happened. This prevents us from learning how we might...

Blame Nobody

No one is to blame for the way we feel. That’s an inside job. No one causes our unhappiness (or our happiness). Blaming others, especially those closest to us, gives away our power. It’s an unwise response to dissatisfaction. Others have the right to live...

Not About Them

When we reject, overlook or criticize others, it’s never personal. It’s almost always about our┬ápreconceptions, projections, insecurities or need to control. When we judge, it’s usually due to the mistaken belief that others are responsible for how...

Precaution Is Compassionate

Making decisions based on our own self-interest without concern for others is not only foolish, it’s self-destructive. As we see more clearly each day during this pandemic, we’re connected to one another in a fundamental way: the air we breathe is the...