We Are More Than We Think

No matter how strongly we identify with our role as parent, child, sibling, professional, intellectual, artist, etc., none of these paints an even remotely complete picture of who we are. Like actors, we play many different roles. Unlike actors, we get carried away...

Egos and Judgments

Our egos love to criticize and have us believe that we’re smarter, cooler and more talented than other identities. This is a temporary pleasure because these superficial, referential reflections of ourselves separate us from the truth of our connection. They...

Looking for Validation

Our goals change as we move through different stages in life. When we’re young, we mainly want to fit in. Later, we become preoccupied with finding our special identity through our work or skills. As we get older, we hope we’ve ‘made a...

Opinions and Identities

If others’ opinions rile you, reflect on why. Ask yourself if their perspective threatens your sense of self. Remember that no one has an unbiased, totally accurate point of view. You might be confusing your version of reality with the actual truth, which very...

Who You Aren’t

It doesn’t really matter who you know, what you’ve accomplished or how much you’ve acquired. Your beauty, prowess and even your intelligence wane over time. Clinging to these superficial characteristics as if they hold real meaning will leave you...

Hold Identity Lightly

Our egos help us distinguish ourselves, relate to others and make our way in the world. But, it’s important to remember that we’ve created this image and can therefore expand, contract or change it, if we choose. Being too caught up in particular stories...