If you want to make a radical improvement in the quality of your life, there are techniques that can help. They’re simple but not necessarily easy, because they involve breaking habits, and habits can be hard to break. But, breaking them is crucial because you can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. I know from experience that the effort you put into it will make a huge, positive difference in your life:
1) Refrain from complaining about anything in your life, including pain in your body, your work, the weather, the government, politicians, and anything else you may have a habit of not liking and talking about. Try for just one day and notice the difference.
When you complain, you energize whatever is bothering you. Confirming it over and over with your attention expands its significance in your consciousness and feeds the situation. It’s a sure-fire way to keep it alive and bugging you.
Exercise to Expand your Mind:
When you feel like complaining about something, imagine that your mind is an enormous field and that this annoyance is just one, tiny speck in that expanse. You are bigger than it, a lot bigger. Imagine that your consciousness is so vast that this one, little annoyance is hardly noticeable. The real you is so large that when put in proper perspective, this issue, circumstance, or problem is barely discernible.
2) Never talk or think negatively about other people.
Because when you do, they feel the quality of your thoughts at some level. Whether or not you’re aware of it, we’re all connected to one another energetically. Negative thoughts and speech aggravate disharmony and make matters worse. Even if you don’t believe in connectivity, thinking negatively predisposes you to keeping your posture and not healing the divide.
Exercise to Open your Heart:
When you notice yourself thinking or speaking negatively about someone or some thing, stop immediately and say, “I’m sorry, forgive me, thank you, I love you.” You may not mean it at first, but try. Then take a minute to sit down, imagine the person sitting in front of you and visualize a white light shining down on both of you, aligning you with truth, love and harmony. Even if you are certain of your position, try to remember that neither of you is necessarily wrong, you just have polarized positions or opinions. If you have difficulty truly wanting harmony, you are withholding love from yourself. Don’t so mean to yourself! Try to feel the truth of that and repeat the process.
3) Focus on what you want and stop feeding what you don’t want with your attention.
A strategy to figure out what you want is to know what you don’t want. But all too often the mind gets stuck on the “don’t want” part of the equation. Focusing on the problem or dissatisfaction only energizes it in your own mind and makes it worse. You have to create something new in order to get something new!
Exercise to Strengthen your Vision:
If you feel you lack something or have a problem, rather than dwelling on the absence or difficulty, shift your focus quickly to creating. Use the situation to inspire and guide you to focus your attention and imagination on what you do want. If you don’t know exactly what that is, sit down, close your eyes and visualize yourself beaming with gratitude that the situation has shifted and you are now happy with the results. You don’t have to actually know the details. As a matter of fact, it’s better to avoid thinking about the process or how the desired results are going to manifest because doubts may arise. Your limited linear mind does not have all the information. Just try to feel what you think you’d feel if the situation were to your liking. Your inner resources will then begin to align you with whatever that is.