Most arguments are power struggles in which each person tries to control the other or prove that they’re right. Next time you’re in such a conflict, consider breaking out a super duper, extra special, tension-breaking peace weapon: the apology. When you get to the point where you’re aware of just how ludicrous the situation is, just say you’re sorry. You can sincerely say you regret how things got out of control and that you’re sorry for your part in it.

It’s a game changer.