External conditions aren’t really what create our happiness. How we frame what’s happening in the moment is what causes our feelings. While stuck in the misguided and depressing paradigm of thinking that joy comes only after some particular condition is met, our happiness depends on things outside our control. Realizing the faultiness of this helps us shift from hoping we’ll enjoy what comes in the future to learning to appreciate what’s happening right now. We can frighten ourselves worrying about the future or torture ourselves by regretting the past, but focusing on what’s good now

Is happiness.

Jarl and Steve