Recurring issues in our relationships are often the result of dovetailing wounds originating in childhood. We mistakenly think others are the cause of our feelings when, in fact, they’re unwittingly activating wounds that are ready to be healed. Take Jane, who felt unheard and Dick, who felt unfairly chastised growing up. Whenever Jane expresses a dissatisfaction, Dick feels blamed and becomes defensive. This makes it difficult for him to respond compassionately. Jane feels unheard, interpreting his defensiveness as a lack of concern. Every relationship that pushes our buttons gives us exactly what we need…

To heal.

Find out how tomorrow in Part 2. 

Steve and Jarl