Judgments Are Revealing

Our judgments of others are really about ourselves. When we’re unable to admit that we could be that bad, we project the judgment out onto others and dislike it out there. When we can accept ourselves unconditionally, we do the same for others. When we’re...

Turn the Judgment Around

Most judgments begin as self-judgment. Either we wouldn’t accept ourselves if we behaved that way or we do act that way and we’re in denial. Projection is pretty common way of coping with shame or unworthiness. When we notice ourselves judging others,...

Labeling Is Limiting

The mind constantly organizes its perceptions in order to make sense of a complex world. It condenses massive quantities of information into classes and categories. But when we label what we see, we’re projecting what we expect instead of actually...

What You’re Hating Might Be You?

Things ‘out there’ that elicit strong negative feelings usually indicate parts of ourselves that we don’t accept. Projecting our disdain outward allows us to experience these emotions at a comfortable distance. It’s easier to acknowledge some...

Control Yourself

Trying to control others when you think they need your help rarely produces the results you desire. When you communicate your lack of faith in them, it actually reduces their effectiveness. Besides, your desire to control could be the result of your own fear....