Top of the Heap

In service to the ego, we chase accomplishments hoping to create a successful reflection that we think will make us happy. Most of us are in perpetual motion, scrambling to demonstrate our worthiness. But we don’t have to rise to the top to know the hollowness...

Worthy without Comparison

Comparing yourself with others is a high-risk, low return proposition. If you learn about excellence from others, it can help you understand what’s possible. But, building up your ego by comparing yourself favorably with others, will eventually make you feel...

Identity Through Comparison

When you base your self-esteem on external conditions, you’re bound to be disappointed. There will always be someone who does it better, faster or smarter than you do. What real difference does it make if you (or they) are better at something? It always feels...

The Ultimate Competition

Competition can inspire and motivate you to pursue excellence, but it can come at the cost of unnecessary, personal stress. Because people have such different backgrounds, belief systems and inherited strengths, basing your personal worth on how you measure up against...

Better Than Who?

You’re taught from a young age to compare yourself with peers, so it’s normal to derive your sense of self-worth in relation to others. But that comparison isn’t accurate. The people you evaluate yourself against haven’t had the same...