Few people have a combination of traits so perfectly suited to our tastes that we appreciate every part of their personality. When we’re unconscious our egos love to define themselves by focusing on things we don’t like about others. When others’ behavior bugs us, directing our attention to aspects of them that we do like fertilizes friendship and bridges the gulf created by our judgment. When we become experts at finding and focusing on things we authentically like, a delightful thing happens: Not only do we appreciate others more…

We appreciate ourselves more, too.

Steve and Jarl