We Can’t Know

Believing we know others’ motivations, doesn’t serve us. It leads to a variety of mistaken assumptions that can negatively impact our relationships. Most of our ideas are projections based entirely on our own conditioning and experience and may have little...

The Problem with Complaining

Complaining is the act of idly talking about something you don’t intend to work on changing. It keeps you locked into hopelessness and prevents a sense of empowerment and possibility, which are vital for innovation and problem-solving. It reinforces an...

The Best Policy

Studies report that people lie an average of 3 times for every 10 minutes of conversation. These statistics refer mainly to little, white lies, like saying you feel fine when you don’t or exaggerating to make your stories more interesting. Lying to manipulate,...

Context Is King

How we feel about others’ behavior depends on how we view their motivations. If we assume that they’re selfishly acting at our expense or even intentionally trying to do something to us, we’ll feel suspicious, manipulated or victimized. But the truth...

From the Inside Out

If there’s something you think you want, go a little deeper and ask yourself what having it would mean to you. What you’re essentially looking for is the feeling you think it will bring. But you can never know that having what you want will actually bring...