When you feel bad because something has (or hasn’t) happened, try this little experiment: trust that it’s for the best. No matter what it is, have the humility to realize that you can’t actually know what the alternatives are or if they’re better or worse. Once you let go of the notion that you know what’s best, it’s easier to see how the situation serves you. When you develop that habit, you establish a very different relationship with your life that can be summarized in one, delightful word: