When we deceive ourselves about our motivations for doing things, it eventually causes us suffering. Pretending we’re giving when we’re really seeking admiration or looking for something in return will make us feel bad if things don’t go as planned. Other people will often consciously or unconsciously detect our ulterior motives. When we’re clear with ourselves and honest with others, we ask for what we want and give others the chance to respond without having to deal with murky, unspoken expectations. Giving for real requires nothing in return because the gift is…

In the giving.

Jarl and Steve.