A co-dependent feels like they’re being helpful when they listen to others complain about friends, family or mates. But that just fuels negativity and encourages outward blame. It’s a poor substitute for the healing that’s possible when issues are dealt with where they originate – within. When someone wants to complain to you about others, you can best help them (and yourself) by suggesting they feel their discontent as sensations in their body rather than keeping it in their head and further energizing it through complaining. Issues are healed the same way they’re created…

From the inside out.