When we find ourselves defending against an accusation, it’s usually an indication that we are repressing a feeling. If we sincerely ask ourselves why we are feeling defensive, we realize that we’re protecting ourselves from a truth that might feel too difficult for us to admit and feel. If we stop defending and acknowledge the possibility that the feedback is accurate, the feeling we were afraid of surfaces and we discover the acknowledgment, and the possible tears that result, are not only healing, but incredibly…

Freeing.