Only Love Is Real

by Merci Gracia | Jul 22, 2019 | Self-esteem, Toxic Emotions

Our programming determines what we believe and expect, whether it’s accurate or not. If we have trust issues, we’re likely to notice things that justify our suspicions. If we’re prone to fear, our imagination sees danger everywhere, turning ropes...

Knowing When to Quit

by Merci Gracia | Mar 28, 2019 | Self-Awareness, Toxic Emotions

Staying in a situation that’s emotionally toxic is self-destructive. No amount of justification will make it better. Wisdom is knowing when to quit. Looking within and being willing to own our part can help us expand enough to see if we’re contributing to...

Conflict and Drama

by Merci Gracia | Feb 24, 2019 | Toxic Emotions

If you frequently experience conflict and drama in your life, you might be addicted to the energy and attention it brings. Others don’t cause your feelings, they result from the way you perceive, interpret and react to people and circumstances. There’s one...

Pain Without Suffering

by Merci Gracia | Jan 13, 2019 | Suffering, Toxic Emotions, Victim Thinking

Pain and suffering are related, but quite different from one another. Both physical and emotional pain result from a wound, affliction or illness. Suffering is a signal that the mind and ego have become involved. We don’t always have control over what causes...

Make the World Better

by Merci Gracia | Dec 27, 2018 | Toxic Emotions

If we want to make the world a better place, the way to begin is to be kind to ourselves. The way we treat ourselves has an impact on everyone we deal with because we’ll treat them the same way too. In the same way discarding litter in the world makes a mess for...

Mindfulness

by Merci Gracia | Nov 7, 2018 | Thoughts, Toxic Emotions

Being mindful means being aware of what’s going on in our minds. The quality of our dominant thoughts determines the quality of our lives. If our thoughts are mostly negative, we’ll feel mostly unhappy. If our thoughts are generally positive, we’ll feel...