Pain Without Suffering

by Merci Gracia | Jan 13, 2019 | Suffering, Toxic Emotions, Victim Thinking

Pain and suffering are related, but quite different from one another. Both physical and emotional pain result from a wound, affliction or illness. Suffering is a signal that the mind and ego have become involved. We don’t always have control over what causes...

Make the World Better

by Merci Gracia | Dec 27, 2018 | Toxic Emotions

If we want to make the world a better place, the way to begin is to be kind to ourselves. The way we treat ourselves has an impact on everyone we deal with because we’ll treat them the same way too. In the same way discarding litter in the world makes a mess for...

Mindfulness

by Merci Gracia | Nov 7, 2018 | Thoughts, Toxic Emotions

Being mindful means being aware of what’s going on in our minds. The quality of our dominant thoughts determines the quality of our lives. If our thoughts are mostly negative, we’ll feel mostly unhappy. If our thoughts are generally positive, we’ll feel...

Never Have to Wait Again

by Merci Gracia | Aug 8, 2017 | Toxic Emotions

Do you get impatient or indignant waiting when others are late? If you’d like to stop torturing yourself over someone else’s behavior, you can create a whole new way of thinking. It has to do with accepting each moment as it comes and avoiding blame....

Hold No Grudge

by Merci Gracia | Oct 20, 2016 | Relationship, Toxic Emotions

Grudges Hurt You Most Staying angry at someone for a perceived wrong is being neither kind to yourself nor wise. You are the one who carries the energy-draining weight of the grudge. Dropping it doesn’t mean you have to play with them, it just means you lose the...

Don’t Be a Hater

by Merci Gracia | Sep 27, 2016 | Toxic Emotions

Hate is a potent emotion that comes from fear and insecurity. Hate appears when some aspect of your identity, belief system or (rarely) your survival is threatened. Indulging in this emotion is detrimental to your well-being because your own subconscious mind...