Avoid Problem Loading

If we’re already feeling down, a small misstep by somebody else can loom so large in our minds that we find ourselves activating an avalanche of mental condemnation of them, piling on real or imagined past transgressions and solidifying a negative mental image...

The Return to Harmony

We often selectively hear what others say. And when we do hear what they say in its entirety, we often misunderstand the meaning. Because we haven’t traveled the same roads that they have, had the same joys, challenges and heartaches, we simply can’t see...

Egos, Opinions and Attachment

We all like to think of ourselves as informed and thoughtful. That’s why it’s sometimes difficult to accept the legitimacy of others’ beliefs. If we’re right, they can’t be! It’s threatening to think that they not only have the...

If We Only Knew

What if that person who cut you off in traffic was desperately rushing to visit their dying parent? Would you feel differently about their behavior? The truth is, we hardly ever really know the reasons for others’ actions. If we did, with some rare exceptions,...

The Case for Tolerance

Next time you make a snap judgment about someone, ask yourself this question: If you had exactly the same DNA, the same family experience, education, social relationships, advantages, disadvantages, insights and blind spots – would you have behaved any...

Welcome the Messenger

Blaming the world for your dissatisfaction is a waste of time and makes you feel powerless. Reality doesn’t get it wrong. What presents itself in each moment is the result of the contributions of everyone on the planet. Each person acts to the best of their...