A Bit of Extra Effort.

When we’re tired our tolerance is reduced and it’s easy to be short with others and say things we might later regret. We might even say something in a very terse way to get it out quickly and, because we’re stretched thin, it comes out wrong and...

Binary for Sanity

The way to nurture excellent relationships is to have healthy boundaries. But we have to choose which issues are important and which are petty objections to inconsequential or harmless behavior. Trying to change others is like a vote of no-confidence – it...

The Case for Forgiveness

Even our precious pets who’ve received countless hours of pure adoration sometimes bite or snap at us. Because of our dedication and unconditional love, we rarely hold it against them. We realize that we must have tripped over a hidden trigger somewhere in their...

Judgment and Tolerance

Every person is equal, but we aren’t born with equal ability, intelligence or privilege. What’s obvious to one may not even be noticed by another. Because we can’t know how life feels emotionally, mentally or physically to others, judging them from...

Avoid Problem Loading

If we’re already feeling down, a small misstep by somebody else can loom so large in our minds that we find ourselves activating an avalanche of mental condemnation of them, piling on real or imagined past transgressions and solidifying a negative mental image...

The Return to Harmony

We often¬†selectively hear what others say. And when we do hear what they¬†say in its entirety, we often misunderstand the meaning. Because we haven’t traveled the same roads that they have, had the same joys, challenges and heartaches, we simply can’t see...