How Problems Are Made

Problems only become problems when we define them that way. A problem to one person may be an opportunity to another. Our interpretations create our experience. When we catch ourselves identifying a problem, it’s good take a closer look and ask if we want to...

Winning Strategy

Competing against others in order to convince yourself that you’re superior may bring a temporary high, but it’ll eventually backfire. Sooner or later, someone else will come along who’s more talented and that will feel as bad as winning feels good....

Beyond the Comfort Zone

Though you have to exit your comfort zone to grow, you don’t need to go completely off-kilter to do it. Risking possible failure can be scary, but you can remain internally balanced even when your external equilibrium is momentarily lost. Worrying about how...

Validate Yourself

No matter how wonderful you really are, no amount of effort will help you gain acknowledgment from someone who doesn’t want to or isn’t capable of recognizing you. They may have problems appreciating others because of jealousy, self-judgment, their own...

The Heart of the Matter

Purveyors of various personal products encourage us to assign enormous value to our personal appearance. While it would be unrealistic to think that looks don’t matter, worrying, fretting and feeling bad over something so insignificant as our outer layer is...

Owning Bad Behavior

When we’ve said or done something we regret, owning it and apologizing to those concerned is the self-loving thing to do. Whether they forgive us or not is beyond our control, but taking responsibility for our part and making amends helps us forgive ourselves....