Cycle of Love

Basing your self-esteem on how you compare with others eventually backfires because it turns every person you meet into an opponent. In truth, the only healthy comparison is between you before and you now. Are you kinder, more relaxed and happier than you used to be?...

The Perfect Mirror

Even when we’re certain that our problems are caused by others, there’s a constant in every situation that ought to make us question this notion: US! We may feel better temporarily if we consider others to be responsible for our hardship, but it will be to...

Inside Out

Being perfectionistic or hyper-competitive can motivate you to produce, accomplish and outperform others, but it won’t help satisfy the underlying yearning that drives this behavior: the need for approval. No matter how much admiration you get from the outside...

How Problems Are Made

Problems only become problems when we define them that way. A problem to one person may be an opportunity to another. Our interpretations create our experience. When we catch ourselves identifying a problem, it’s good take a closer look and ask if we want to...

Winning Strategy

Competing against others in order to convince yourself that you’re superior may bring a temporary high, but it’ll eventually backfire. Sooner or later, someone else will come along who’s more talented and that will feel as bad as winning feels good....

Beyond the Comfort Zone

Though you have to exit your comfort zone to grow, you don’t need to go completely off-kilter to do it. Risking possible failure can be scary, but you can remain internally balanced even when your external equilibrium is momentarily lost. Worrying about how...