Search for Love

Pursuing anything in order to feel accepted or validated ultimately leaves us stuck in a cycle of approval-seeking. We’ll never collect enough external validation to overcome any sense of personal inadequacy we may feel. Self-esteem has to be generated...

Freedom from Approval

When you live your life from a place of wholeness, you don’t require outside approval to feel deserving. You feel good enough without needing to constantly out-perform others. You are self-contained, self-assured and free. This feeling of wholeness allows you to...

Why People Lie

The most common reason people lie is to make themselves look better in the eyes of others so they might feel better about themselves. They embellish or spin facts they think will place them in a favorable light. Even though many such lies have no impact or are...

Comparison Is Double Edged

Defining our self-worth through comparison necessitates critiquing others. The ego wants so badly to consider itself superior and depends on this status just to feel okay about itself. The subconscious mind doesn’t differentiate between the criticized and the...

Witness to Greatness

Seeking constant recognition from others is an impossible mission and endless endeavor that puts us on an exhausting hamster wheel of external approval-seeking. Requiring admiration and respect from others usually means we don’t feel that way about ourselves....

Self-Sufficiency

Before you’re truly in an emotional and psychological state to help others or change the world, it’s important to feel worthy and complete yourself. Helping others or doing good deeds simply to generate others’ admiration is an ineffective way to...