No Comparison

Comparing ourselves with others is a high-risk, low return proposition. While learning about excellence from others can help us understand what’s possible, building up our egos by comparing ourselves favorably with them will eventually make us feel worse...

Everyone Is a Mirror.

While it can often appear that others affect how we feel about ourselves, they really just mirror our own self-perception. Those who doubt, criticize or otherwise ‘make us feel bad’ aren’t actually the cause of the way we feel. They’re simply...

Who to Impress

As babies, we seek to please our parents for our survival. As we grow we learn that pleasing teachers and authority figures helps in getting good grades and achieving success. This early experience usually results in an unconscious drive to impress others in order to...

Mirrors

The reflections we get from the outside mirror our self-esteem. Others subconsciously pick up on how we feel about ourselves and without even realizing it, tend to comply with our expectations. We often can’t help but interpret their words and actions through...

Not Worth it

Talking negatively or complaining about others is self-destructive. It’s usually an unconscious attempt to boost our ego by comparing ourselves favorably to them. Because our subconscious minds don’t distinguish who it is we’re speaking about, it...

Only Love Is Real

Our programming determines what we believe and expect, whether it’s accurate or not. If we have trust issues, we’re likely to notice things that justify our suspicions. If we’re prone to fear, our imagination sees danger everywhere, turning ropes...