All About You

When you base your self-love and acceptance on how you compare with others, happiness will likely elude you. Even if you master your chosen field, the threat of someone else usurping your position will dilute the ego gratification of being better than. It’s only...

Seeking Validation

Trying to convince someone to respect you is likely to produce the opposite effect. They’ll feel your need and it’s harder to respect someone who’s pulling it from you. You can’t strategize or manipulate respect out of others, it has to come...

Connection Is about Presence

Trying to impress others with what you do, who you know or how much you have is laborious, unsatisfying and ultimately counterproductive. People who care about superficialities aren’t real friends. Friendship and human connection are based on energy. Chasing...

Believe in Yourself First

We all modify our behavior to accommodate whoever we’re dealing with. But if we’re insecure and unsure of ourselves, others hear that message loud and clear and respond accordingly. Alternatively, if we treat ourselves with love, respect and dignity,...

The Rescuer Complex

Basing our self-worth on our ability to rescue others might seem noble, but upon deeper reflection we see it necessitates someone else being weak so that we can feel good. This unhealthy dynamic doesn’t help them, in fact, it takes their power away. The reason...

Freedom and Self-Acceptance

Freedom and self-acceptance are the natural outcome of living in authentic alignment with your own values. Feeling the need to pretend, manipulate or control others comes from the fear that you won’t be able to get what you want or keep what you have if...