True Victory

Winning an imaginary competition based on performance, fame or fortune whets the appetite for even more approval from others. Any satisfaction gained by comparison is short-lived, unpredictable and beyond our control. Sustainable and rewarding approval can only come...

Friendship Test

Loving the way you feel about yourself around people is an excellent indicator that they’re a match for genuine friendship. It’s more important than sharing interests, political views or economic status. When you feel good around others, without needing to...

Simply Refrain

The easiest way to transform any aspect of our lives is to adjust the way we think. Though it seems like thoughts are just inevitable responses to external circumstances, it’s actually the other way around. We perceive reality based on our conditioning, which...

Negative Talk

Talking negatively about others often indicates a low mood or a lack of self-acceptance. It’s common to unconsciously project onto others the very things we don’t accept in ourselves. It’s healthy to notice when we’re criticizing others and use...

Most Important Performance

There are loads of people doling out advice on how to be more organized and efficient, improve your career trajectory, make more money and have a better relationship. But the only performance that you really need to concern yourself with is how well you’re doing at...

Supposed to…

Telling yourself that you’re supposed to be somewhere else, doing something else is telling yourself a lie. It’s coming from another lie that you’re not enough. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve your perspective, enthusiasm or...