A Step Above

The most effective way to improve our experience in any aspect of our life is to assess and modify our own behavior. Finding fault with others actually weakens us. It’s disempowering to put the responsibility for how we feel on someone else. Their interest...

It’s Not Their Fault

It’s tempting to shift responsibility for our happiness and fulfillment onto someone else and, when things don’t go as planned, blame them. Not only does this not work, it robs us of our power and agency. No one else can create or prevent our happiness. We...

Total Responsibility

Accepting complete responsibility for the quality of your life is crucial if you want to move forward, grow and expand in any area. If you see yourself as a hapless victim, subject to the decisions and behavior of others, you won’t be free to change much of...

The Past Is Prelude

Moving through life without investigating our role in creating the quality of our relationships and experiences guarantees that the past will repeat itself, albeit with different details. The way to grow and deepen the quality of our life is to take a detached look at...

Cure for Moodiness

Moodiness is often the result of unresolved anger. It’s an unconscious method of coping with feelings we haven’t fully taken responsibility for. When we’re moody, we tend to project blame outward rather than accept our own role in creating our...

Satisfy Yourself

Worrying about what others think of us is stressful and can strain our relationships. We never know how anyone really feels about us and even if we could know for sure, we’d have little power to alter or control it. What can relieve anxiety and impart wholeness...