Knowing When to Let Go

All relationships have a purpose. Some are meant to be brief and some are meant to span a lifetime. Being able to discern which is which is a sign of wisdom and a healthy self-love. Relationships issues that don’t get resolved cause stress, lower the quality of...

Relationship Balance

Healthy relationships maintain a particular kind of balance that helps accelerate personal growth for each individual. That balance is a result of being neither too merged nor too independent. Overly merged partners can lose confidence in their ability to function...

Relationships Part Vl

Letting go of the need to control has a deeply liberating effect on our relationships. Trying to control how others behave is exhausting and unpleasant for all involved. We don’t get to decide every twist and turn that we or others experience. Trying will...

Relationships, Communication Part V

Learning to communicate effectively (and lovingly) takes practice and courage. Expressing ourselves honestly can feel scary, especially when we’re not used to doing it. If we were taught as children that our feelings don’t matter, opening up emotionally...

Relationships Part lV, Arguments

Arguments are actually a necessary part of healthy relationships. Studies show that couples who argue are happier and more likely to stay together and than those who stuff their feelings and avoid conflict. But, too much bickering can put a strain on any relationship....

Relationships, Part lll

Softening and letting go in an argument doesn’t mean we don’t express our feelings. It means we do it with less attachment to being right or winning. It means we do it with the intention to communicate so we can understand one another. Understanding...