Below the Surface

The quality of your relationships is affected as much by your thoughts about them as it is by what you do or say when you’re together. Everyone unconsciously senses the way others think and feel about them. If you harbor private judgments about someone, that...

Friendships

Friendships give life depth and meaning. True friends are concerned about each others’ well-being and are naturally inclined to help one another attain it. They provide positive support that is uplifting and life enhancing. They never collude against others....

Relationship Stress

Sometimes the wisest course of action for relationships that cause constant stress is to distance ourselves. The tension created doesn’t just feel bad to us, it radiates negativity into the world. The energy we expend on dysfunctional relationships keeps us...

Improving Relationships

If you want to improve the quality of any relationship, start by working on the relationship you have with yourself. The way you feel about your interactions with others is a mirror of how you feel about yourself. When someone criticizes you for something you like...

The Perils of Superiority

Do you develop friendships with people you tend to judge? If so, you may be drawn to them because noting their inadequacies makes you feel superior. It’s probably not conscious, but cultivating friendships with people you don’t respect isn’t healthy...

Relationship Dynamics

Occasional disagreements and arguments are a normal part of every relationship. Both people think that they’re right and the other person is responsible for the disturbance. Each wishes the other would alter their behavior to suite their preferences. But egos...