Energy Dance

Everything is energy. Our relationships are each, at the fundamental level, a dance of energy. The nature of our connections is determined by the quality of the energy we put into them. For instance, when we come on strong, the other usually pulls back and when...

Delayed Reaction

Many emotional dramas can be avoided by simply pausing before reacting. When someone is feeling distraught and says something that triggers us, it’s common to respond from a perspective of indignation, as if to say, ‘How dare you characterize me that...

Return to Harmony

When you’re in a power struggle with someone, repeatedly hashing over the details in your mind or rehearsing what you want to say to them will not bring the energy between you back into harmony. Because everything starts as energy, dealing with troubling issues...

Of Paramount Importance

When a feud is simmering or about to erupt, it’s useful to ask ourselves what’s really important? Do we want to be right or loving? What’s the cost of standing our ground and the benefit of flexibility? If our feelings are hurt, is it possible to...

Ask for What You Want

We often unconsciously expect others to read our minds and know exactly what we want from them. But even if they could read our minds, their own preferences, predilections and blind spots interfere with their intuitive powers. When we add our own disappointment about...

Relation Ship

Our relations with others are like ships upon which we set sail together. Within every union, each party contributes to the building of the ship. The nature and quality of the time we spend together determines the kind of adventures we’ll encounter and the...