All About Us

The qualities or characteristics we admire in others already exist within ourselves. They may be dormant or undeveloped but they’re in there. Acknowledging that we possess them changes our perspective about what’s possible. We project admiration out there...

The Big Mirror

The world we see is a reflection of our internal world. Things that aggravate us are simply aspects of ourselves that are being mirrored back. Others may gaze upon the same situation or behavior and have an entirely different response. Of course we’re more...

Miscalculated Processing

If you’re like most people, you argue with others in your mind. In repetitive loops, you build cases, make others wrong, prove yourself right and may even escalate your emotions to a fever pitch. Processing feelings is healthy, but this internal litigation ad...

Triggered

Anytime the behavior of someone triggers us, it’s an opportunity for growth. It’s fine to take evasive action in response to rude or unwanted behavior, but the need to obsessively hash out, condemn and judge them shows that there’s an internal issue...

Stories Create Neuropathways

We respond psychologically, physiologically and neurologically to the stories we tell ourselves. Regularity makes our habits a path of least resistance. The more we tell a particular story, the more fixed our response to it becomes. This means that the way we frame...

Projection

When we lie, we naturally think others do, too. When we deceive, we worry that we’ll be deceived. When we constantly find fault, we fear criticism by others. The saying from childhood ‘what you say is what you are,’ is actually based on a deep truth....