Subtle Perception

The way others behave toward us is rarely personal. If we look below the surface, we will often see that their behavior is driven by their state of mind: arrogance can stem from feelings of unworthiness, rudeness from anger or frustration or aggressiveness from...

Discernment, Judgment and Identity

Our well being necessitates the ability to discern. However, if we feel our sense of identity is in danger, that discernment can morph into judgment and cloud our perception. The fear of losing face interferes with what we see and how we interpret it. When we...

What if It’s All Good?

What if everything that’s happening in life is just right…like a muddy patch of color in an abstract painting that seems ugly up close, reveals itself from a distance to be the exact element necessary to perfectly accentuate everything around it?...

Your Mind’s Makeup

Part of our brain function is genetically determined. Another very large part of its capacity is conditioned by the environment in which it develops and lives. Our social context teaches us how to respond to opportunities, threats, penalties and rewards. The way we...

Depth and Understanding

Just as depth perception requires seeing with two eyes, deeply understanding any situation necessitates examining it from various angles. We each perceive reality from a unique perspective and every point of view has blind spots. We all tend to see what we expect to...

Presumption of Innocence

How we frame others’ actions determines how we feel. If we see someone driving erratically and find out they’re rushing a loved one to the hospital, we’ll be far more understanding than we would be if we thought they were driving recklessly for...