Cycle of Love

Basing your self-esteem on how you compare with others eventually backfires because it turns every person you meet into an opponent. In truth, the only healthy comparison is between you before and you now. Are you kinder, more relaxed and happier than you used to be?...

The Gift of Love

True love requires nothing in return. Their happiness is what we want even when their desires don’t align with our preferences. This doesn’t mean we don’t set boundaries or require kindness. It may even be healthy to distance ourselves if mutual...

What’s Important?

Trying to carve out a name for ourselves can cause us to lose sight of what’s really important. The quest for approval often steers us away from what our heart knows is real. At the end of life, no one wishes their career had been more successful. They may,...

Love Is the Way

If you’re critical of someone’s behavior and you let them know, they’re likely to be defensive and resistant. However, if you focus on the part of them that you love and appreciate, no matter how distant it feels in the moment, the outcome will be...

There Is No Shortage

It’s easy for marketers to prey upon our human fear of scarcity and convince us that we need all kinds of things to feel happy and secure. But we actually need very few of the things we’ve been persuaded to desire. The idea that those things will result in...

Loving Yourself

If you’re looking for more joy, you won’t find it out there. It’s tempting to think that the perfect relationship, right amount of money, ample recognition and success will make you happier, but that’s highly unlikely. Feeling good is the...