Find the Love

The approval and validation we seek from others is really a longing for self-approval. In a clumsy effort to learn to love ourselves unconditionally, we seek it from others. The pursuit of trying to win admiration is misguided for, even if we do achieve temporary...

The Pursuit of Beauty

There’s so much beauty in the world that we often take for granted or even miss it completely in our rush to do, accomplish and acquire. The dramatic, natural shows of dawn and dusk skies, the endless array of amazing flowers and mysterious trees, the beams that...

Tenderness

This epidemic challenges us to consider our life and place in the world in an entirely new context. The fact that COVID-19 makes us fear the possibility that we or someone we love might not make it through this provides strong motivation for us to relate to others in...

Resentment

Resentment is a feeling we conjure, reinforce and suffer from all by ourselves. “She bore bitter feelings of resentment toward her ex-husband.” “He’s filled with resentment at his boss.” It’s clear that resentment is a toxic emotion...

Real Love

There’s one kind of love that makes all other types of love possible: Self-love. Until we love ourselves we can’t truly love others. In fact, most of our problems with others stem from issues we have with ourselves because we project our fears,...

Love Is In the Air

Valentine’s Day is an occasion for lovers to celebrate their partners with cards expressing their feelings, flowers, chocolates and special meals. But it’s also a marvelous opportunity to celebrate love more broadly. We can make it a special day to connect...