Don’t Believe It

Our negative thoughts regarding the behavior of others are merely distractions that turn our focus outward rather than facing the truth about what we’re feeling inside. Of course, when we see someone who’s truly harming others or otherwise misguided,...

It’s About You!

Every judgment we have shows us what we don’t accept in ourselves. The world we see and experience ‘out there’ doesn’t really exist without our spin. We judge everything that doesn’t fit neatly into our paradigm. We restrict our own...

Misunderstandings

Because we’re each operating in our own, self-fabricated world, we are sometimes offended by things that weren’t meant to be offensive. We all interpret our experiences according to our memories and programming. We can even subconsciously like and dislike...

What We Notice

The positive characteristics we notice in others are ones that we appreciate in ourselves. It’s empowering to acknowledge these favorable traits but, if we really want to grow and expand our self-awareness, noticing the traits that push our buttons is even more...

The Boomerang Effect

Our judgments of others are like boomerangs. They originate from within and ultimately return back to us. That’s because our subconscious mind doesn’t distinguish between self and other. It perceives our judgments of anyone as self-judgment. This...

The Webs We Weave

The bigger the web of judgment we weave, the more likely we are to be annoyed. The more we criticize the world, the more imperfect the it feels to us. This cycle of judgment creates a densely woven fabric of dissatisfaction that ultimately results in us getting caught...