Suspend Judgment

We’re hardwired to monitor our surroundings for danger. Since we’re rarely under threat of real physical harm, this instinctual tendency to protect ourselves often results in unnecessary judgment, superfluous suspicion and needless negativity. The solution...

Let Life Surprise You

Most of us assume that we know what’s going on. We’re opinionated about what’s right and wrong and how things should be. In truth, we see a very small sliver of the big picture. Hardships turn out to be lessons, missteps result in serendipitous...

Setting the Tone

We bring out different aspects in one another, depending on our history, habits and belief systems. If we judge others, they feel it and act accordingly. Our judgments are really about us because we’re usually just projecting our fears, aspirations and...

Different People, Different Standards

In light of the fact that people have different biological predispositions and physiological abilities and constraints, it’s no wonder that we have different capacities and perceptions. Considering each of us travels through a totally unique tunnel of training,...

Don’t Believe It

Our negative thoughts regarding the behavior of others are merely distractions that turn our focus outward rather than facing the truth about what we’re feeling inside. Of course, when we see someone who’s truly harming others or otherwise misguided,...

It’s About You!

Every judgment we have shows us what we don’t accept in ourselves. The world we see and experience ‘out there’ doesn’t really exist without our spin. We judge everything that doesn’t fit┬áneatly into our paradigm. We restrict our own...