Judgments Are Reflections

Our judgments of others say more about us than they do about the people we judge. Strong negative reactions often stem from disowned feelings that we’re reluctant to face. When we project our feelings outward and see others as inferior, it’s a big signal...

The Sword Cuts Everybody

If you build your self-esteem by judging and comparing yourself with others, you will naturally expect them to judge you, too. Even if they don’t, your fear of being condemned will make you self-conscious and interfere with your authenticity. When you respect...

What We Think

What we think of other people tells us more about ourselves than it does about them. Most of our intense judgments come from disowned feelings about ourselves. The stronger our reaction to something, the more likely it is that we’re projecting. When we’re...

Drop that Judgment

Society teaches us to judge as a way to differentiate ourselves from others. But dividing the world into ‘us’ and ‘them’ makes us ping-pong from superiority to inferiority and keeps us in a continuous cycle of dominance and defensiveness. When...

Judgment Takes You Out

When a difference of opinion culminates in you shutting someone out completely, you’re limiting yourself. Evaluating others with narrow (and inevitably subjective) criteria results in you missing opportunities. It means you won’t learn important lessons...

Judging Others

Nobody can be other than the way they are in each moment. We’re all trying to get through our lives as best we can. Just because we may think we know a better way for someone else doesn’t mean they’ll resonate with our advice or that our ideas are...