If It Bugs You…

Our judgments of others give us valuable insight into ourselves. The more irritated we get over their behavior, the more relevant the information. Either we behave similarly without realizing it and subconsciously judge ourselves for it, or we judge their behavior,...

Self-Esteem

The better we feel about ourselves, the better we feel about others. The more we judge ourselves, the more we judge others. In fact, our judgments of others can reveal what we don’t accept in ourselves. Our egos resist this concept, as if we objectively see...

Dig Deeper

Abraham Lincoln is reported to have said, “I┬ádon’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” What we perceive as someone’s annoying or untoward behavior usually makes more sense when we dig a little deeper into their life. If we had the...

Choosing Friends

Who we spend time with has a profound effect on our well-being. When we’re feeling accepted, respected and loved, we feel good. Being around those who criticize, judge or control us damages our self-esteem and drains our energy. When we judge them back,...

What We Say

Our judgments of others speak volumes about us. We see the world through the lens of our own experience. If we lie, we assume others do, too. If we cheat, we worry that others will cheat us. Whatever we wish for others, we actually draw to ourselves. Because our...

Judgments Instruct

Our judgments of others provide useful information to help us gain greater self-awareness. Because we perceive life through our own viewfinder, our interpretations and conclusions are predicated on our past experience and present understanding. Since we aren’t...