Condemnation Is a Clue

The better we feel about ourselves, the less likely we are to talk about others’ inadequacies. We still recognize our preferences, but we don’t waste time cataloguing the ways others don’t measure up. Catching ourselves in such behavior is a perfect...

Real Love

There’s one kind of love that makes all other types of love possible: Self-love. Until we love ourselves we can’t truly love others. In fact, most of our problems with others stem from issues we have with ourselves because we project our fears,...

The Amazing Present

The circumstances of each moment are always neutral until we assign meaning to them. We decide whether something meets our expectations, conforms to our sense of reality, whether it foretells good or is an ominous signal of a troubled future. It’s difficult for...

The Big Mirror

The world we see is a reflection of our internal world. Things that aggravate us are simply aspects of ourselves that are being mirrored back. Others may gaze upon the same situation or behavior and have an entirely different response. Of course we’re more...

Suspend Judgment

We’re hardwired to monitor our surroundings for danger. Since we’re rarely under threat of real physical harm, this instinctual tendency to protect ourselves often results in unnecessary judgment, superfluous suspicion and needless negativity. The solution...

Let Life Surprise You

Most of us assume that we know what’s going on. We’re opinionated about what’s right and wrong and how things should be. In truth, we see a very small sliver of the big picture. Hardships turn out to be lessons, missteps result in serendipitous...