Helping Others

When we can offer service to someone who needs help, it feels good. However, there are healthy and unhealthy ways of helping. Helping someone because we subconsciously need to feel useful, can rob them of the satisfaction that accomplishment brings. When we become...

What’s Important?

We are constantly bombarded with messages encouraging us to expend a monumental effort to enhance and uphold our identities. But, when we get to the end of our lives, we won’t care about what happened on social media, how successful we were or how much money we...

Form Vs. Content

Sometimes we see others through external metrics like their accomplishments, degrees, fame or  possessions. These markers can impress us and temporarily cause us to forget to evaluate whether they also have other, more important qualities like authenticity, kindness,...

Inside and Outside

Whether you’re a famous inventor or a clerk in a store, what you do in the outside world doesn’t really matter in the big scheme of things. Egos like to feel unique, separate and better, but what matters most is who you are on the inside. Do you live...

Identity Dead End

When we’re ego driven, we try to differentiate ourselves in hopes of feeling worthy. Spinning narratives about our lives to gain admiration slows our evolution. Instead of listening, we’re talking. Instead of finding our inner truth, we’re busy...

Goodism

Being of service or wanting to do good is noble. However, wanting others to know about our good deeds is often an unconscious attempt to compensate for feelings of unworthiness, (or a strategy to get attention.) We know our motivation is healthy when we act simply...