Hold Identity Lightly

Our egos help us distinguish ourselves, relate to others and make our way in the world. But, it’s important to remember that we’ve created this image and can therefore expand, contract or change it, if we choose. Being too caught up in particular stories...

Fear and Ego

Fear isn’t all bad. The kind that warns of potential danger can be beneficial. However, fear concerned with protecting the ego robs our energy and evokes anxiety about preserving an image. Fueling concern about unwanted hypothetical outcomes not only feels bad,...

Knowing Thyself

Humans look, think, speak and act differently. This variety makes life more challenging, but it makes it more interesting, too. It’s not the diversity that creates disharmony and conflict, but fear of difference, comparison and the insecure need to feel right or...

Helping Others

When we can offer service to someone who needs help, it feels good. However, there are healthy and unhealthy ways of helping. Helping someone because we subconsciously need to feel useful, can rob them of the satisfaction that accomplishment brings. When we become...

What’s Important?

We are constantly bombarded with messages encouraging us to expend a monumental effort to enhance and uphold our identities. But, when we get to the end of our lives, we won’t care about what happened on social media, how successful we were or how much money we...

Form Vs. Content

Sometimes we see others through external metrics like their accomplishments, degrees, fame or  possessions. These markers can impress us and temporarily cause us to forget to evaluate whether they also have other, more important qualities like authenticity, kindness,...