Inside and Outside

Whether you’re a famous inventor or a clerk in a store, what you do in the outside world doesn’t¬†really matter in the big scheme of things. Egos like to feel unique, separate and better, but what matters most is who you are on the inside. Do you live...

Identity Dead End

When we’re ego driven, we try to differentiate ourselves in hopes of feeling worthy. Spinning narratives about our lives to gain admiration slows our evolution. Instead of listening, we’re talking. Instead of finding our inner truth, we’re busy...

Goodism

Being of service or wanting to do good is noble. However, wanting others to know about our good deeds is often an unconscious attempt to compensate for feelings of unworthiness, (or a strategy to get attention.) We know our motivation is healthy when we act simply...

Self-Consciousness

It’s common to want to protect our self-image. If we feel it’s threatened, we can react defensively or aggressively, as if our very safety hangs in the balance. But, activation of these instinctive reactions to protect our personal identity, ironically...

Downside of Defensiveness

Defensiveness is a byproduct of feeling that people see our behavior differently than we want them to. Unfortunately, it results in a lack of receptivity to the feedback being offered. The practice of checking this knee-jerk reaction and instead opening to what people...

Personal Barometer

It’s tempting to compare ourselves with others and wonder how we measure up? Are we as impressive or successful? Will we need to redouble our efforts in order to feel worthy? We ask these questions when our self-acceptance is based on comparisons. We can use...