Boundaries for Balance

Authentic giving is done without anticipation of reward. When we expect something in return, it’s conditional and more like a trade. There’s nothing wrong with wanting something in return, it’s just not true giving. Even real giving can cause...

Ups and Downs

Life can be like a roller coaster. Sometimes we roll along the crest of the ride enjoying moderate undulations and excellent views. Other times we descend down precarious cliffs, dropping dramatically and fearing for our safety or even survival. Living artfully...

Be Number One

Are you in the habit of putting the needs of everyone else first? If so, you’re probably a little resentful and maybe even angry at those who don’t put you first. The problem with this is twofold: 1) Only you know what you really need and the same goes for...

Giving for Real

We’ve all heard the expression ‘the gift is in the giving’. That means that, when we give to others, we simultaneously receive a gift because giving is so satisfying. It makes us feel generous, kind and helpful. These are intangible, but very real...

Identified as a Helper?

Do you offer advice, try to fix other people and readily step in to take care of friends in need? These propensities are noble when they’re selfless, but egos can surreptitiously seek to reinforce their identities by offering their invaluable assistance....

True Giving

True giving asks for nothing in return. When you want something back, even credit for your generosity, it’s more of an exchange than a gift. When you give without expectation, the joy is in the giving, so you don’t have to wait until you get acknowledgment...