Arguing with Ourselves

Most of the arguments we have are in our own heads. We imagine what ‘they’ might say and form rebuttals. But no one out there is arguing with us. Engaging in fantasy feuds hypes us up and may even land us in emotional imbalance. The subsequent feelings and...

The Moment of Free Will

No matter what’s going on, you’re free to rise above the details and choose how you want to feel about it. You do this by identifying that crucial moment when the matter pops into your head and your mind starts wrapping itself around the issue. In that...

Like a Snowball

You roll through life collecting individual experiences just like a snowball collects mass. Some experiences you shed like water off a duck’s back. Others stay with you forever. The degree to which you make the good instead of bad part of your long-term story is...

Your Experience Is Made-Up

If you’re like most people, you live in a personal narrative composed of concepts, beliefs and language. You’re probably so mesmerized by your hypnotic programming that you believe it’s actually real. The stories you tell yourself are mostly...

Your Hidden Captor

Unless you’re remarkably conscious of your conditioning, most of your behavior is influenced by your subconscious mind. This explains why it sometimes seems so difficult to make improvements, stop destructive patterns and actualize dreams. When you consciously...