The Logic of Forgiveness

It’s easy in hindsight to see how things could have turned out better. But hypotheticals fail to take into account the many factors involved, over which we have little control, such as emotional states, blind spots and a lack of adequate information....

Tool #6

Tool #6 – Forgiveness Well-being requires that we move through the emotions that block the free-flow of energy. As soon as we notice something troubling us, it’s important to honestly acknowledge our feelings about it and then let it go. Forgiving those...

Curve Balls

Every now and then, life throws us curve balls. Whether they’re little surprises or truly devastating, the optimal response is often the same. Realize that there were countless factors in the past that resulted in this event that we can’t even begin to...

Forgiveness Phobia

Having difficulty apologizing is a sign that we’re unwilling to entertain the possibility that we’re partially responsible for disharmony. We may have a less-than-healthy sense of self-worth or even some shame that makes it difficult to admit we’re...

It’s Not Personal

It’s hard to forgive when someone hurts us. Especially when it feels like they had no regard for our feelings. But other’s actions are rarely about us.¬†They may have been selfish, unthoughtful or even cruel, but their behavior was designed to make...

Imagine

Think of someone for whom you hold a grievance or of a situation in your life that feels wrong, unfair or offensive. Without focusing on specifics or adding energy to the situation, just notice the sensations you feel in your body when you think about that topic....