Resentment

Resentment is a feeling we conjure, reinforce and suffer from all by ourselves. “She bore bitter feelings of resentment toward her ex-husband.” “He’s filled with resentment at his boss.” It’s clear that resentment is a toxic emotion...

The Truth About Forgiveness

It’s wise to forgive others for perceived slights or grievances because we feel better. It’s even wiser to realize that hurt, anger or disappointment over others’ behavior is always self-generated. Our reactions are based almost entirely on our...

The Fallacious Nature of Fame

Most of us have fantasized about being famous. Being admired and recognized by the masses for some special ability or beauty can seem sublime. However, beneath the aspiration for large scale, public recognition is actually the desire for self-love. Many who’ve...

To Err Is Human

Mistakes help us learn and evolve. No matter how it appears, harm caused by others’ mistakes is mostly unintended. We all do things with the idea of benefiting ourselves or our loved ones. If we find, in retrospect, that we took action without concern about the...

It’s Our Burden

Every slight, hurt or violation we cling to weighs upon our psyche. Independent of any objective assessment of our ‘rightness’ or someone else’s ‘wrongness’, we alone suffer from chaining ourselves to these burdens. Accumulated over years...

Forgiveness Is For You

Forgiving implies that it’s our prerogative to let someone off the hook. But the beauty of real forgiveness is that it lets us off the hook. Forgiveness releases us from the burden of believing we’ve been wronged. True forgiveness frees us from needing an...