Curve Balls

Every now and then, life throws us curve balls. Whether they’re little surprises or truly devastating, the optimal response is often the same. Realize that there were countless factors in the past that resulted in this event that we can’t even begin to...

Forgiveness Phobia

Having difficulty apologizing is a sign that we’re unwilling to entertain the possibility that we’re partially responsible for disharmony. We may have a less-than-healthy sense of self-worth or even some shame that makes it difficult to admit we’re...

It’s Not Personal

It’s hard to forgive when someone hurts us. Especially when it feels like they had no regard for our feelings. But other’s actions are rarely about us. They may have been selfish, unthoughtful or even cruel, but their behavior was designed to make...

Imagine

Think of someone for whom you hold a grievance or of a situation in your life that feels wrong, unfair or offensive. Without focusing on specifics or adding energy to the situation, just notice the sensations you feel in your body when you think about that topic....

Judgment

The way we feel about others is inextricably linked to the way we feel about ourselves. Aspects of our own personalities that we detest or disown get projected onto others where we subconsciously and mistakenly think it’s safe to dislike them. But disdaining...

Get Over It Quickly

Everyone occasionally deals with hardship and suffering. Some experiences are minor inconveniences, others might be extremely painful. If we try to control our lives to avoid these experiences, not only are we likely to be unsuccessful, we could actually miss the...