Emotional Balance

Having both positive and negative emotional reactions to people and circumstances in our lives is normal and healthy. The habit of turning those feelings into elaborate stories that make others wrong in order to get attention and sympathy isn’t. Arguing a court...

Stay with the Feeling

When we feel hurt by others’ actions, it can easily morph into anger. Because we don’t want to feel the way we do, we go straight to our head and concoct a story about why they are to blame.¬†Ironically, what’s causing our feelings is usually a...

Sadness

Every one of us is occasionally touched by sadness. Whether it’s the result of something directly related to our lives or something we hear about secondarily that triggers it, sadness is a fact of life. Denying we have feelings or distracting ourselves from them...

Premature Transcendence

Sometimes our emotional reactions are so uncomfortable that we repress them, convincing ourselves that we’re ‘beyond’ them. Although we may rationalize and believe it’s true, this coping strategy simply prolongs suffering. No short cut will...

Feel Those Feelings

You can’t control the feelings that arise in you – and you shouldn’t try. You can’t even know for sure where your feelings come from. But, you can definitely control the type of thoughts you cultivate. This is vitally important because every...

How to Feel Seen and Heard

When we don’t feel emotionally ‘seen and heard’ in a relationship or particular area of our lives, we can employ varying strategies to get others to pay attention. We may be straightforward or manipulative. We may use anger or guilt, issue demands or...