Where Feelings Come From

It isn’t what we do, who we’re with or where we are that creates our feelings. Feelings arise from within, rather than being the inevitable result of external circumstances. The fact that we can be happy in extremely unpleasant situations and unhappy in...

Feeling Heard

“Many a man would rather you heard his story than granted his request.”  Phillip Stanhope. We all want our feelings to be acknowledged. Sharing our feelings with others requires vulnerability. We do it because, when we feel heard, we feel understood and...

Emotions and Feelings

There’s nothing wrong with being emotional and having strong feelings. Though we prefer feel-good emotions over difficult ones, both are necessary and contribute to a full life. We often feel ashamed of anger and fear and dislike them in others. But, both can be...

Personal Time

Checking in with ourselves to see how we’re doing is crucial for maintaining our well being. Busy lives and hectic routines make it easy to ignore unwanted feelings and even pretend they don’t exist. But unacknowledged feelings don’t go away, they...

Stepping Out of Ego

Egos enjoy finding fault by using comparisons that place others in an inferior light. This creates a stronger ego-identity because, the more critical egos are, the more solid they feel. But the comfort of a highly developed identity comes at a great price....

We Create Our Feelings

No one else is responsible for our feelings – they’re generated from within. When we feel taken advantage of, but don’t stick up for ourselves or set boundaries, we’re actually upset at ourselves (subconsciously). If we’re criticized about something,...