We Create Our Feelings

No one else is responsible for our feelings – they’re generated from within. When we feel taken advantage of, but don’t stick up for ourselves or set boundaries, we’re actually upset at ourselves (subconsciously). If we’re criticized about something,...

When Life Feels Unfair

Sometimes things happen to us that don’t seem fair. We can’t really know the rhyme or reason that people act the way they do or why life unfolds the way it does. Our job is to take what does happen and make it work for us. Every situation we encounter...

Anger

Although most of us don’t really like to experience our own or others’ anger, it’s a normal emotion. Just watching any baby shows us how natural it is. When babies don’t get what they want, they go ballistic until they’re soothed and...

The Child Lives On

Most children are taught by their (well-meaning) parents to ignore their feelings. Phrases like “you’re okay, don’t cry, there’s nothing to be afraid of and act like a big boy or girl” are designed to help us (and them) avoid discomfort....

Communicate

Rather than communicate our feelings, it’s tempting to avoid confrontation and let things slide, especially when we anticipate defensiveness or hostility in response. However, allowing emotional baggage to buildup isn’t worth the temporary comfort of...