The Benefits of Reinterpreting

Every thought produces a reaction in the body’s physiology. Its magnitude depends on the level of emotional intensity the thought creates. Our physical sensations also create reactions in our minds. Our bodies can bring mental pleasure or pain and our minds can...

Repressed Feelings

Distracting ourselves from our unpleasant feelings to escape the discomfort simply ensures that those emotions get lodge in our bodies and eventually create problems for us. Repressed emotions don’t just go away on their own, they have to be felt if we want real...

Emotional Complexity

Our emotional lives are nuanced, simultaneously spanning many different shades and colors of feeling. We may dislike certain aspects of a particular person, place or thing, while having a deep appreciation for other aspects. We may be upset about something today and...

What We Really Want

When we’re grieving or even just feeling down, we usually aren’t looking for someone to cheer us up, encourage us or give us advice. We really just want our feelings to be acknowledged. We don’t require that others feel bad for us – that would...

Emotional Balance

Having both positive and negative emotional reactions to people and circumstances in our lives is normal and healthy. The habit of turning those feelings into elaborate stories that make others wrong in order to get attention and sympathy isn’t. Arguing a court...

Stay with the Feeling

When we feel hurt by others’ actions, it can easily morph into anger. Because we don’t want to feel the way we do, we go straight to our head and concoct a story about why they are to blame.¬†Ironically, what’s causing our feelings is usually a...