Suffering in Advance

Worrying about something that hasn’t happened is borrowing trouble from the future. Because you don’t have as much information as you will when and if the dreaded scenario happens, you don’t actually know what your options will be at that time....

The Fruits of Failure

Most of us view failure as something to be avoided. We associate it with not getting what we want and therefore think of it as entirely negative. But that perspective limits us. When we’re too worried about failure we won’t take chances or try new things....

Attitude Matters

When life presents us with unwanted changes, we can become upset and resistant or meet them cooly — with an attitude of curiosity. The unknown often feels overwhelming, but the more completely we trust that life delivers just what we need for our greatest growth...

Context Is Everything

When something happens that appears bad, fretting may seem understandable, but that might actually signal a shortsighted view and a lack of understanding. At any point in time, we only see a tiny slice of ultimate truth. Events that seem negative often prove in...

The Untrustworthiness of Fear

Fear is an unreliable motivator. Imminent danger is one thing, but fearing the future because we don’t currently have all the information isn’t rational or sound. We’ve all worried needlessly about so many things that might have happened (but never...

Centered Within

We’re rarely in total balance, especially when we’re growing. Growth necessitates moving out of our comfort zone, which throws us momentarily off kilter. All movement requires shifting back and forth between yin and yang, safety and risk, stasis and...