Cause for Celebration

Could it be that feeling better than others only delivers fleeting satisfaction? As long as we’re playing a game of comparison, the next person we meet could easily make us feel as bad about losing as we thought we’d feel good about winning. But the question is not...

Position and Perspective

Your perception of yourself in reference to others not only impacts how you relate to them, it determines how you feel. If you think any success they have reduces your potential share of the pie, then you see them as competitors against whom you’re waging a more...

Competition Vs. Cooperation

Competition in sports is fun and it compels us to perform well. But cooperation brings out the best in us as human beings. While we might think competition is necessary to elicit improved outcomes, the motivation often comes from ego rather than heart. Competition...

Who’s Right?

Most of us think our way is the best way. Experience convinces us that this is true. But, universal agreement about truth is rare because everyone has their own subjective interpretations and opinions vary. The best way to resolve disagreements isn’t by...

Relationships, Part lll

Softening and letting go in an argument doesn’t mean we don’t express our feelings. It means we do it with less attachment to being right or winning. It means we do it with the intention to communicate so we can understand one another. Understanding...

True Warriors

If something is said that makes you want to defend yourself or hurt back, take a deep breath and wait before you react. This will give you time to reflect, remember that nothing is personal and realize that they’re probably just feeling bad and (ineffectively)...