Power Struggles

Despite the fact that power struggles interfere with harmonious relationships, many couples are plagued by them. People who maneuver for power are often trying to correct a sense of powerlessness that developed in childhood, usually the result of growing up with an...

Better Left Unsaid

It’s tempting to volunteer advice when we think others have made an unwise move or acted inappropriately, but there are two problems with giving this kind of counsel. First, we can’t know for sure how their behavior will actually play out in the world or...

Do You Have Control Freakitus?

When something isn’t going the way you think it should, do you get uncomfortable and try to realign matters to fit your preferences? Or do you pause for reflection and take look at what you might be able to learn from the situation? The need to control is an...

Control Yourself

Trying to control others when you think they need your help rarely produces the results you desire. When you communicate your lack of faith in them, it actually reduces their effectiveness. Besides, your desire to control could be the result of your own fear....

Are You a Control Freak?

If you’re a control freak, you probably aren’t even aware of it. You honestly believe that you’re helping people with your constructive and insightful observations. If you micromanage others for fear that they won’t do it right, naturally...

The Fear Boogie Man

Fearful stories are made-up scenarios created by your conditioned-self. They’re mostly just internalized voices of authority figures from your past. Though their original purpose was to protect you from perceived harm, they often resulted in instilling you with...