Sensitivity and Boundaries

When we’re young, we think the world revolves around us. As we mature, we begin to understand that everybody is at the center of their own world. Some of us are better at sensing others’ needs and preferences. We don’t have to lose ourselves in that...

Silver and Plastic Spoons

We aren’t all born equal. We don’t have the same intelligence, strength, natural talents, wealth or health. We weren’t all equally loved and nurtured or born into the same degree of safety and security. Neither do we all have the same ability to face...

What Our Brains Reveal

Pulling oneself up by the bootstraps isn’t equally easy for everyone. A study of 83,000 brain scans revealed that criminal behavior, depression and mental illness often result from some form of brain injury. The study showed that treating the specific type of...

Apology Redux

We all make mistakes, it’s part of being human. Sometimes those mistakes are happy ones and actually bring good fortune. But sometimes they hurt others. When that happens, it’s often not the mistake that’s the biggest problem, but what we do (or...

Skin Deep

When we meet others we don’t like or understand, it’s tempting to be dismissive or spin a story about their weirdness or inferiority. This kind of characterization permits us to exclude them from consideration and kindness. But if instead we consciously...

Others’ Shoes

Because we all view the world through our own unique lens, it’s difficult to understand why some people act the way they do. We might get agitated or even angry seeing someone driving recklessly fast, while possibly endangering themselves and others. But if we...