Co-Dependency and Wholeness

When opposites attract, people seek partners who have strengths that make up for their weaknesses. But this approach to relationships creates codependency, which usually leads to resentment. Depending on someone else to make us feel whole makes the thought of losing...

Co-Dependency

We all depend on one another to some degree. It becomes a problem when we derive our identity out of feeling like another person can’t exist without us or we can’t exist without them. Feelings of low self-esteem can cause us to unconsciously seek out...

Don’t Feed Negativity

Do you have friends or family who love to complain about certain aspects of their lives? Though you probably want to help them through difficult times, it’s important not to encourage the habit of negativity. If they’re complaining unconsciously or just to...

Needing to Be Needed

The desire to be indispensable to others is easy to understand. It gives us a sense of purpose, strength and validation. It’s a tangible vote of confidence from which we derive meaning and a sense of worthiness. However, this desire┬ácauses us to look for others...

Co-dependency

Healthy relationships required emotionally balanced individuals who view each other as equals. Co-dependent relationships in which one person needs to be helped and the other needs to be needed, eventually breed resentment, fear and insecurity. Any relationship can...

Don’t Be a Confidant for Complaints

A co-dependent feels like they’re being helpful when they listen to others complain about friends, family or mates. But that just fuels negativity and encourages outward blame. It’s a poor substitute for the healing that’s possible when issues are...