Needing to Be Needed

by | Jul 7, 2020 | Co-dependence, Self-Awareness

The desire to be indispensable to others is easy to understand. It gives us a sense of purpose, strength and validation. It’s a tangible vote of confidence from which we derive meaning and a sense of worthiness. However, this desire causes us to look for others...

Co-dependency

by | Mar 3, 2018 | Co-dependence

Healthy relationships required emotionally balanced individuals who view each other as equals. Co-dependent relationships in which one person needs to be helped and the other needs to be needed, eventually breed resentment, fear and insecurity. Any relationship can...

Don’t Be a Confidant for Complaints

by | Jul 31, 2017 | Co-dependence

A co-dependent feels like they’re being helpful when they listen to others complain about friends, family or mates. But that just fuels negativity and encourages outward blame. It’s a poor substitute for the healing that’s possible when issues are...

Own Your Wholeness

by | Feb 1, 2016 | Co-dependence

When opposites attract, people seek partners who have strengths that make up for their weaknesses. But this approach to relationships creates codependency, which usually leads to resentment. Depending on someone else to feel whole makes the thought of losing them so...