Boundary Setting

Boundaries Set You Free It’s quite natural for us to test limits, sometimes pushing them as far as we can. As toddlers, we learn to explore boundaries in the world around us physically, mentally and emotionally. By adulthood, we’ve developed our own...

Gate Keeper

Think of your life as an exclusive resort. You’ll need to maintain the grounds and keep things up. Deferred maintenance costs you dearly down the road. You are in charge of who gets to come to the resort and spend time with you. You get to decide what the rules...

Limits Liberate You

When you eliminate the distracting noise of what you don’t want in life, you can devote yourself wholeheartedly to what you do want. Saying no to all the stuff that doesn’t interest you or suit you philosophically is a good thing. Just as good writing is...

No Excuses

Try this little exercise in owning who you are. Next time you get invited to do something socially that you’d really rather not do, just say, “No thank you.” Do it kindly, but don’t offer explanations or excuses. If you’re asked why you won’t participate,...

The Power of No

You have to know what you want before you can make decisions that help you create it. If you’re not totally sure what will make you happy, try this exercise: Say NO in every way you can think of: loudly, softly, angrily, matter-of-factly, confidently, etc. While...

How to Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries by letting others know what does and doesn’t work for you is healthy. If they’re still unable to behave in a way that feels good to you, it doesn’t mean they’re bad or wrong. It’s just the best they can or want to do at...