Depersonalize It

Spats and arguments are often the result of stress, fatigue or activation of unknown triggers. When you’re in someone else’s cross hairs, it’s crucial to avoid getting activated yourself. It can be difficult to remain calm when you’re unfairly...

Evolving without Blame

What particular beliefs, decisions and behaviors in your past added up to your life as it is right now? If you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong, answering this is difficult because it makes you feel like you’ve done something wrong or that...

Blame Weakens

Blame is a dead end. While it may feel more comfortable to believe that other people’s behavior is responsible for the way you feel, it takes away your power and makes you a victim. The remedy is not to blame yourself, but rather to examine cause and effect....