Impressing Others

In this modern, social world, it seems that our survival (or success) depends on earning the respect of others. This perceived dependency can create a compulsion to try to impress others with our skills, intelligence or personality. It may be an unconscious impulse to...

Self-Consciousness vs. Self-Awareness

When we’re self conscious, we place too much emphasis on how others think of us and not enough on how we view ourselves. We want them to like us, but that’s not up to us. Our personal well-being doesn’t come from others. It comes from increased...

Thoughtful Balance

Sometimes it seems easier to go along with others rather than stand up for what we believe in. It’s normal to want to avoid the discomfort of stating our objection. We may fear that the disagreement might hurt their feelings or cause them to view us unfavorably....

Saying No

Saying yes to someone when it’s actually a ‘no’, helps us temporarily avoid the discomfort of possibly making the other person feel bad, displeased or disappointed. But ignoring our own preferences doesn’t support us in living authentically. It...

Form Vs. Content

Sometimes we see others through external metrics like their accomplishments, degrees, fame or  possessions. These markers can impress us and temporarily cause us to forget to evaluate whether they also have other, more important qualities like authenticity, kindness,...

Honest and Real

There’s nothing more refreshing than a person who’s authentic. When we tell the truth and do what we say, people can rely on the fact that we are who we appear to be. It’s difficult to trust people who don’t honor their word. Telling stories to...