Chill Time

Everyone experiences restful periods in which our eyes are unfocused and our minds are relaxed. Staring into space is strangely compelling. While we’re conscious of what we’re doing, we’re not actively controlling it. Being aware of the mind and its...

Authenticity Vs. Image

Being authentic means living in alignment with our values. When we act out of alignment with who we are (or want to be), there’s an internal dissonance. The greater the gap between the truth of who we feel ourselves to be and how we present ourselves in the...

Authenticity Is Awesome

It’s so natural to want to be liked that it’s tempting to try to please everyone all the time. But that’s an impossible mission. We can’t even be sure what others want from us, so trying to figure out how to make everyone around us happy is a...

Not Our Business

Being overly concerned with how others feel about us puts us on the slippery path of people-pleasing. We can never make everybody like or respect us. Trying too hard to make it happen just takes us farther from our authentic selves and causes us to behave in ways we...

Impressing Others

In this modern, social world, it seems that our survival (or success) depends on earning the respect of others. This perceived dependency can create a compulsion to try to impress others with our skills, intelligence or personality. It may be an unconscious impulse to...

Self-Consciousness vs. Self-Awareness

When we’re self conscious, we place too much emphasis on how others think of us and not enough on how we view ourselves. We want them to like us, but that’s not up to us. Our personal well-being doesn’t come from others. It comes from increased...