The Messenger

The best thing to do with unsatisfying situations is to accept them. Resisting, denying, blaming or longing for the past only fuels discontent. Moving beyond any disagreeableness requires first acknowledging the reality of how things are. From this perspective we can...

Control Freak

We all have a natural impulse to try to control the details of our immediate environment. While this may come from a basic survival instinct, the impulse often extends beyond things that could be classified as our business. This is where we run into problems with...

Practice Allowing

The more we let relatively insignificant events bother us, the more negative our world becomes. There are occasions when it’s necessary to speak up or take decisive action, but allowing minor events and circumstances to get under our skin only disrupts our own...

Master Your Mood

Do you ever start thinking about someone’s behavior and get so aggravated that you lose focus on what you’re doing? Stirring up negativity in this way robs you of energy and keeps you agitated. Since you can’t ever really know where their behavior is...

What Is, Is

The thought that something shouldn’t have happened is like thinking there shouldn’t be clouds in the sky. Each moment shows up the only way it can given everything that precedes it. The vision you deem superior isn’t possible at this point in...

The Benefits of Adversity

It’s not what happens to us, but how we deal with it that makes the difference in our lives. If we crumble into a heap or go into victim mode, challenges don’t help us much. If instead we choose to inquire more deeply, we’ll become skilled at finding...