Better Left Unsaid

by | Jun 6, 2015 | Advice, Control

It’s tempting to volunteer advice when we think others have made an unwise move or acted inappropriately, but there are two problems with giving this kind of counsel. First, we can’t know for sure how their behavior will actually play out in the world or...

Every Idea Has it’s Time

by | Oct 23, 2013 | Advice, Empowering

It’s rarely a good strategy to share your ideas in their infant stage of development. A critical comment from someone can be demoralizing. Though it’s tempting to seek positive feedback early on, the potentially disastrous impact of well-intentioned (or...

Shakespeare’s Message for You

by | Aug 9, 2013 | Advice, Beliefs, interpretation

Almost anything can be seen as either good or bad – it just depends on your point of view. The way something appears to you is based on your interpretation, which is formed through the lens of your belief system. Just becoming aware that you are seeing through a...

Hold the Space

by | Jun 28, 2013 | Advice, Attention, Judgments

Friends sometimes need to process their feelings out loud. It may seem like they’re asking for your advice, but they really just want you to listen. When you can stay neutral and be present for their need be heard without having to express your (undoubtedly...

Accept Feedback Gracefully

by | Apr 13, 2013 | Acceptance, Advice, Grace, Self-Awareness

Think of feedback you receive from friends, family and colleagues as instructions from life. Rather than putting up your armor in response to perspectives that don’t match your view of yourself, consider it helpful information from a kind universe. When you...

Live Your Own Life

by | Mar 30, 2013 | Advice, Focus, Giving, Judgments

You’re here to live life your way. And the same goes for everyone else you know. Even when it seems like they need your guidance, unsolicited advice is rarely well received. Your input sends the message that they aren’t living their life up to your...