Trying to change others to fit our idea of how they should be is bound to backfire. It’s a vote of ‘no confidence’ because we’re effectively telling them we don’t value who they are right now. If their behavior harms us emotionally or physically, it’s absolutely reasonable to create a boundary. It’s our job to distance ourselves from behavior we can’t accept. If our critique is just about¬†our preference, it’s good to remember that making us happy isn’t their job. Their top priority is to expand, experiment and express in…

Their own way.