When we feel slighted or imagine others have committed a transgression against us, it’s natural for our egos to want to jump at the chance to attack and respond back with similar energy. We may start building a story enumerating¬†their inadequacies and defending our own behavior. This defense is sure to create more tension and prevent us from examining our own role in the dynamic. If instead, we investigate our own behavior, without making them wrong and focus on what we want to create, we learn much more about human psychology…

And ourselves.