Advice

When others complain to you about their situation or circumstance, remember that they may not be looking to you for a solution. They may just be wanting to vent. Your well intentioned attempt to offer a solution may actually result in more complaining, since all they...

Judgment and Tolerance

Every person is equal, but we aren’t born with equal ability, intelligence or privilege. What’s obvious to one may not even be noticed by another. Because we can’t know how life feels emotionally, mentally or physically to others, judging them from...

Identification with the Mind

If we’re identified with what happens in our mind, then it’s natural to believe that solutions can be found there, too. That’s a recipe for a dizzying stream of thoughts whirling around as we try to devise remedies using the same instrument that...

Through the Looking Filter

The thoughts we cultivate about others have relatively little to do with who they really are. We’re seeing them through a filter of condition. Others will see them differently, based on their programming. What one finds distasteful, another may find delightful....

How to Feel Seen and Heard

When we don’t feel emotionally ‘seen and heard’ in a relationship or particular area of our lives, we can employ varying strategies to get others to pay attention. We may be straightforward or manipulative. We may use anger or guilt, issue demands or...