Antidote to Suffering

Suffering is created by the way we construe the world and construct meaning. When we become conscious of how our thinking creates our feelings, we can choose to think differently. Some egos reject this idea because it threatens the identities that are created by...

Counting Chickens

The old expression “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch,”cautions against getting attached to a desired outcome so you won’t be disappointed later. However, this maxim fails to offer complete advice. The best way to manage and manifest...

Motivation by Fear

When we make decisions based on fear, we play small and settle for less. Fear often causes us to disregard others’ feelings and violate our own values. Ironically, living in fear ensures we experience those feelings we sought to avoid in the first place. Taking...

Be The Person You Want to Be

We all have strategies for trying to win the approval of others. Sometimes they involve acting in ways that we think will impress them, even when they don’t represent who we authentically are. Sooner or later, pretending to be who we’re not gets us into...

The Messenger

The best thing to do with unsatisfying situations is to accept them. Resisting, denying, blaming or longing for the past only fuels discontent. Moving beyond any disagreeableness requires first acknowledging the reality of how things are. From this perspective we can...