Don’t Be a Confidant for Complaints

A co-dependent feels like they’re being helpful when they listen to others complain about friends, family or mates. But that just fuels negativity and encourages outward blame. It’s a poor substitute for the healing that’s possible when issues are...

The Problem

Thinking something is a problem is what makes it one. In contrast, viewing what happens as the inevitable result of all that’s come before, takes you out of resistance and puts you in a frame of mind in which you can create something more to your liking. Reality...

Voicing Fears

Some fears that arise are just fleeting thoughts. But once you start to voice those thoughts out loud, you add energy to them. Unless you’re in immediate danger, the best thing you can do is work on the issues internally. The way to acknowledge your feelings...

Anger Is Misguided

Our conditioning causes us to interpret everything the way we do. The unspoken rules we live by vary so much that we’re all living in different worlds. What bothers one person, rolls easily off another’s back. Even our words aren’t always heard the...

Seeking Validation

Trying to convince someone to respect you is likely to produce the opposite effect. They’ll feel your need and it’s harder to respect someone who’s pulling it from you. You can’t strategize or manipulate respect out of others, it has to come...