Through the Tunnel

The process of grieving is a solo journey. You have to go through it in order to come out on the other side. Others may be able to make you feel better, but that relief is only temporary. Resilience isn’t developed by distraction from unwanted feelings, but by...

Imagine

How much of your time is devoted to doing what feels right for you in the moment? If your days were filled doing what you want, what would that be? Close your eyes and imagine that. Feel it in your body and enjoy it for a few moments. If your life isn’t full of...

The Proof Is in the Pudding

When evaluating how open-minded, creative, kind or intelligent someone is, it’s best to focus on their energy. Their history, accomplishments, credentials and pedigree can actually distract you from the aspect of them that impacts you most. Words, resumes and...

No Shortcuts

When something happens that breaks your heart or traumatizes you, it takes time to heal. Distracting yourself with continuous activity or jumping into a new relationship often delays the healing process and can end up making you feel even worse. Sometimes it’s...

Validate Yourself

No matter how wonderful you really are, no amount of effort will help you gain acknowledgment from someone who doesn’t want to or isn’t capable of recognizing you. They may have problems appreciating others because of jealousy, self-judgment, their own...